Love?

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How do you know? How do you tell affection from love? How do you know you're in love? It doesn't make sense to me, and what is love anyway? Everyone always says "You'll know when", but that is bullshit. I'm seriously confused here, and I know that there is probably no good answer to this, but still. I'm going crazy here.

You'll know when.

I fell in love once.

I felt like she was the one that could truly make me happy for the rest of my life. If saving her meant me dying, I wouldn't hesitate to save her. She knew everything about me, good and bad, and with it she held my world in the palm of her hands.

That's how I felt.

what happend?

She tried to sleep with my best friend. My best friend being the good guy that he is turned her down because he knew I'd be upset if he did it. We had a big falling out. I moved to a different city just to clear my head. I came back, decided I was strong enough to talk to her again, she was still psycho, I told her to stay away from me and don't call me in a letter. We didn't talk for 2 years. I called her out of the blue, got on good terms. Talked for about a week. Stopped talking again. That's it.

I fell in love once.Was it really love then?

"Was it really love then?" Steve AI do love philosophy! Mututal, perhaps so, despite her unfaithful ways. Perhaps it was all one sided?

But was it really love at all?

3 years after the fact, I look back and I say yes, I was truly in love with her. Was she in love with me, no. It was one sided.

> I was truly in love with her. Was she in love with me, no. It was one sided.

Is that really possible? Doesn't that sound more like infatuation, whis is what puppy love is?

It's possible. I've thought about it a long time, trust me.

Is that really possible? Doesn't that sound more like infatuation, which is what puppy love is? I don't see why someone cannot be in love with someone that doesn't love them. Granted it's not a relationship, (and if you let it go too far its stalking) but I wouldn't downgrade it to 'puppy love'... I don't think 'love' requires that the feelings be reciprocated in order for them to be valid though hopeless. :::shrug:::

What is "love"?

Very good question.

Oh baby don't hurt me.

Great, lets get songs rolling by Haddaway, lol.

That's a good question. Love is such a powerful word to me, yet I don't even know what it means. I only ever had one girl tell me she "loved" me, and I asked how she knew. Her explanation was she thought about me all the time and felt safe when I was with her. Sounds simple, but for myself that's a hard feeling to come by.

Someone once asked me "how do you know when you're in love"? I responded, without even thinking about it; "When you don’t have to ask yourself". That was years ago. I think it's one of the purest truisms that ever came tripping out of my mouth. I stand by it to this day.

I like that answer, simple, but probably the only true answer to the question

Love... 'tis difficult. With my first girlfriend, I don't think I loved her. I despised most everything about her even when we were together: her beliefs, her bigotry, her lack of respect for me, her gullible-ness, her childishness.My current girlfriend... I don't know really if I love her. But I certainly have a great respect and caring for her. I think that is part of love. I don't think it is just a feeling that is indipendant. I think it grows out of many other feelings. Feelings which one cannot acquire in a short period of time. These other feelings come together to make an overall internal indescribable feeling.