Passed

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Sorry for posting so many new topics... but this one really has me concerned :frowning:

I took my girlfriend out to lunch today. Afterwards, I was dropping her off at her school, I parked in front, like always. She went toward me, and I was gonna kiss her, but got a hug instead. So, I turned my head down, to kiss her, and she didn't recprocate the motion... I ended up getting her right next to the lips :frowning:

She's just so hard to read! :frowning: She never wants to hold my hand... then we kiss once, she initiates a second kiss, and now she just completely passes me on a third kiss... clearly intentional on her part too! I cannot read her... and you'd think after 3 months of going out I'd be able to understand, but she's always sending me such crazy mixed signals! One minute she seems distant, the next minute close, the next minute disgusted!

She's so unopened to showing her feelings... unless she really is that mixed up inside! :frowning: And I wouldn't even KNOW where to begin if I wanted to talk to her about it...

Man... this sucks!

Why don't you ask her why is she hesitant about showing affection? She may be the type that isn't affectionate. I'm the same way.

Classy is right. Communication is important. Ask her.

How though? I'm shy, she's shy, we're both really nervous people... seemingly. I have no idea how/when/where to bring it up. What to say. It's so hard for me to be open to open up to another person... even her

Why are you afraid?

Well... depends on how you look at it. I've never EVER EVER been good at talking to people. I'm REALLY shy! In fact, me and my ex did all our serious talking over IM, it was just so damned hard to do in person... that's just the way I am... ya know?Well... guess who doesn't use IM? I don't know how I would even bring it up... I mean, when we're just sitting there... be like "so, there's something that concerns me" or what? I don't wanna freak her out. I mean, if she's not into showing affection, that's okay... maybe, and I wouldn't want her to get all "oh my god why you going all serious on me?" like. I just wanna set up a nice conversation to air our thoughts.We were talking once... and I don't know what about. It was a while ago... at the start of our relationship. I asked her something about how she feels about something... don't really remember. Anyway, she told me then that she doesn't like talking about her emotions. Guess what? That doesn't make trying to ask her things like this ANY easier

If both of you want to keep this relationship going, you both need to learn how to open up. Make it a New Year's resolution or something along those lines. It could be something you can work on together.

Dude,Give her her change and tell her to drive thru

You are shy, but you want to know something about her. You have to learn to communicate with her in person. Don't be afraid of this change. We all change. It's just a matter of time.

Would she really be freaked out? Even if she is, wouldn't she realize that there was no reason to be freaked out? She may just not be fond of public display of affection. There could be all kinds of reasons for her actions.

"oh my god why you going all serious on me?" It's easy to come back on this question by a simple, "I just want to get to know you better."

The problem with lack of communication is it's hard to know each other without it. She doesn't really know you and you don't really know her. It's a simple fact between most people. Unless you've grown to know each other, then we're all really strangers.

Talk to her. There's no reason to be scared. No matter what happens, there is a positive outcome. Remember that.