Making eye contact with girls

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I am a shy guy and always have been. Many many girls I've been interested in have tried to make eye contact with me in the past. As soon as eye contact is made, my heart beats 200 times a second, I get sweaty palms, and then I immediately look away in some other direction after merely a split second, with the girl still looking at me. Please tell me if I am doing the right thing. If this is wrong, please tell me how to tame this game of making eye contact with girls.

I'll tell ya the way I did it and it worked for me. Make eye contact just long enough to make the faintest of smiles. Then look at the ground or somewhere else, but not at another person, then look back briefly. I think it's a kind of shy playful way of making it rather obvious that "I'm interested" but it also says, "I'm not a psycho stalker."

Now, how long are you talking about making eye contact for. I've heard that you should look at her till she looks away, but I don't feel confident enought to do that. Sorry but I'd appreciate it if someone could walk me through the steps of making eye contact with someone you are interested in. I feel like I'm at a loss for not knowing how to make eye contact, since it's the first step for many other better things to come.

Originally Posted By: see spot runI've heard that you should look at her till she looks away...God no, she'll think your a psycho.Just look at her long enough to give a little half smile maybe 3 or 4 seconds (don't know I've never timed it) Then glance away 1 or 2 seconds. Then glance back at her maybe for maybe 2 or 3 seconds.Never stare so long that it makes her or you feel awkward.

Originally Posted By: see spot run I've heard that you should look at her till she looks away, YIKES! That is a thing you use to create dominance with a dog!! The looking away by the dog says it submits to you! With a girl, it means she is gonna run!Just like OldFolks said, just a quick glance.

If you can't look into her eyes then try looking at like her eyebrows or something.

Quote: YIKES! That is a thing you use to create dominance with a dog!! The looking away by the dog says it submits to you! With a girl, it means she is gonna run! Really?! That's interesting. I make eye contact all the time until they look away. With a smile or smirk on my face. The interesting thing I have noticed is a lot of the really attractive girls don't look away and sometimes even approach me in curiosity.

> Really?! That's interesting. I make eye contact all the time until they look away.

When you stare at someone until they become uncomfortable, they might just think you're a psychopath. With humans, as with dogs and cats, it's a sign of aggression. On the other hand, it's appropriate while she's talking.

If part of your strategy is to make the woman uncomfortable, and it works for you, then go right ahead.

[Tangent: staring isn't processed the same way for cats as it is for dogs.]

It depends how well you know her how much eye contact you can make. I think, just a little bit longer than normal and then look away. And then look back again and do it again with a smile or something.

Some people feel uncomfortable and others get curious. Most of the girls I make full eye contact with are used to guys staring at them... but generally the guys are not staring them in the eyes. Probably why they get curious. Most of the time, at the least I get a smile back.

Well, it's cool that you can pull it off.Another bit of advice: the alpha male doesn't fidget around. He conserves body movements.

Haha. I think I've read that somewhere before.