I masturbate irregularly, usually at a ratio between 4-5 times a week. [ as opposed to most people who do it 1-2 times a day [which works out to 7-14 times a week]I figure that should be enough to make it so i dont have any wet dreams. Unfortunatly that's not the case, i dont ej. in my sleep, however i still have dreams which would be considered sexual. [80 percent of the time heterosexual dreams, but not with any female that i know personally] What annoys me is i feel like i have a lack of mental represenation in these dreams. Because i know that i'm not thinking the way i would normally think, and i have semi-proof:I had a dream that was rather frightening, i was extremly depressed because i wasn't making it to any of my high school classes, infact i couldn't even remember them. When i woke up i was a bit more relaxed because i could not only remember the order of my classes, i also remembered each teacher who taught the class, as well as the room which the class takes place. Sexual issues shouldn't be a concern for me, as i dont want them too. I dont plan on having a girlfreind till i'm 18, and i dont plan on having sex untill i'm married. [that includes all forms of sexual activity.] It's very annoying to be a captive witness to somone with a completely different personality as me.
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Annoying Night Sexual dreams
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You're a guy. Whether you toss off or not you're still gonna get horny. Its just the way the human body works.You can't just turn off that part of the brain. It's part of you and that's how it is.I do not believe frequency of masturbation would have any effect on how you feel. It certainly makes no difference for me.I used to have days where I would do it 4-5 times throughout the course of the day, and recently I've not been doing it at all (only done it once in nearly 4 months now) and I have noticed no difference.The only reason I cut back was in the hope that my brain would get used to not having release, and so would not expect it. I was wrong though. Nevertheless I still don't do it - just because I don't have to now and it's easier that way, especially as I have a new housemate.All I can suggest is that you embrace the fact that you're human, and that you have a respectable plan for what you plan to do when you do decide to become active.
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Originally Posted By: sadbuttrueYou're a guy. Whether you toss off or not you're still gonna get horny. Its just the way the human body works.You can't just turn off that part of the brain. It's part of you and that's how it is.I do not believe frequency of masturbation would have any effect on how you feel. It certainly makes no difference for me.I used to have days where I would do it 4-5 times throughout the course of the day, and recently I've not been doing it at all (only done it once in nearly 4 months now) and I have noticed no difference.The only reason I cut back was in the hope that my brain would get used to not having release, and so would not expect it. I was wrong though. Nevertheless I still don't do it - just because I don't have to now and it's easier that way, especially as I have a new housemate.All I can suggest is that you embrace the fact that you're human, and that you have a respectable plan for what you plan to do when you do decide to become active. You'd think that after 2000 years of chastity human kind would have shown some weakening in that area of the mind. We're smart enough to not be naturally horny just to produce offspring.
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You've lost me.
Who has had 2000 years of chastity?
Sex is all around us. There is SO MUCH pressure on people to have it so that they fit in.In fact, with people I know it's gotten to the point where I can't join in their conversations because they all talk about their sexual experiences and I have none.
As such I have spent the past few weeks locked in my room watching futurama - saving a fortune on tissue though!Like I say though, it's all around us. On TV, in books, on buses, so you can't be blamed for having thoughts about it! Perhaps if you shut yourself off for a couple of decades it may subside - but it may also get worse!
In my experience, if you have had any form of sexual contact (which I have, though i am still a virgin) then after a long time of not experiencing it, you start to think about it more, and it can warp into other things.
You just gotta let it slip by!
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You'd think that after 2000 years of chastity human kind would have shown some weakening in that area of the mind. We're smart enough to not be naturally horny just to produce offspring.
Where do you find all this chastity? It doesn't appear to exist, even in monasteries. Human evolution doesn't get very far in that short a time frame.Based on your comment in another thread, you seem to be at war with your sexuality.
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Quote:i know that i'm not thinking the way i would normally thinkThat's perfectly normal for dreams - it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
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Well i'm talking about 300+ years ago, pre-marital sex was a serious offense. I dont want sexual things to be on my mind, it makes me feel mentally weak. [similar to some other Compuslive habbits i have, although my dreams usually are in "Skit Comedy Form" usually having random plot changes, and a few sexual moments most of which i forget.]
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What is your motivation for suppressing these "sexual things"? Religion? And why does it make you feel mentally weak?
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I think it has a lot more to do with a fear of sexual feelings and what they might lead to (such as a physical relationship) than a real disdain for sex, based on what he's said (between the "sex sucks" statements).