How would you describe asexuality?

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What makes one asexual?

From the Wikipedia article on asexuality:

"Asexuality is a general term or self-designation for people who lack sexual attraction or otherwise find sexual behavior unappealing. There is debate as to whether this is a sexual dysfunction or a sexual orientation. Furthermore, there is disagreement over the exact definition of the word. The term is sometimes used as a gender identity by those who believe their lack of sexual attraction places them outside the traditional definitions of gender. There has been little research done on asexuality, but those studies that have been conducted suggest that, if it is a sexual orientation, it is among the least common."

i wish i was asexual :"(

I wish I was Brad Pitt. I'll never be Brad Pill, but you can get an orchidectomy.It's funny...you go to a lot of thread having to do with sex, and you either say sex is bad, or you wish you weren't sexual, regardless of what the OP is asking. Maybe you should start your own thread on the subject.

Originally Posted By: HelmsmaNsmilez916 - There are drugs available that will help you. Nah... it's wishfull thinking on my part. I'm just annoyed at people who look at something like not having any sexual drives and saying "Oh that's terrible B/c = no pleasure" If i told my parents i wanted to take drugs which would make my antisexual they'd freak out. And of course there's good reason behind it.

It's possible to be afraid of sex, to fear its power.

Edit: Corrected awful spelling error

Originally Posted By: IneligibleIt's possible to be afraid of sex, to fear it's power.

That's the way I used to feel. Do you think I hit the nail on the head for you?

Originally Posted By: IneligibleThat's the way I used to feel. Do you think I hit the nail on the head for you? The asumptions i make are simply from evesdropping in school. Two people hook up, make out, break up, and cry about it for the next week. Sounds like alot of fun.

Wikipedia is not an acceptable source, thank you very much.I heard that asexuality was actually somebody who tries to pretend they're not homosexual.

That pretty much doesn't look like a good definition at all.http://www.asexuality.org/home/http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6533Google ftw, my dear -- and it seems that Wikipedia isn't that wrong about it.

ok i have to ask, what was the spelling error?

Wikipedia is not an acceptable source, thank you very much.Wikipedia articles usually have references and external links. A Wikipedia article doesn't stand on it's own.> I heard that asexuality was actually somebody who tries to pretend they're not homosexual. That would be a person trying to pass (as a straight guy), or someone in denial of his sexuality. I suppose you could call someone who's gay but choses to hide it by not having any relationship "asexual", but I'd call that person a non-practicing homosexual.Is your post a veiled way of saying that you're concerned with your sexual orientation, and your worried that that orientation may not be quite straight?

No that wouldn't describe me, the idea of any sexual activity, no matter who it involves always makes me uncomfortable.

I put "it's" (which is the contraction of "it is" or "it has") instead of "its" (the possessive form of "it").

You are not asexual. You have a sex phobia. You keep randomly posting about how you wish sex would just go away, but a better course would be to address your problem with sex. If you stay on the path you're on, you will remain frustrated and unhappy.

Sex is never going to be part of my life, so why bother labelling myself? If people are going to 'come out' and admit to being gay, they must have a sexual motivation for doing so. If the sexual aspect is not going to be there, then there is no point putting oneself through the turmoil of: a) having ppl laugh at you, b) become a loner, c) risk serious injury from a homophobic attack.

To be honest, I feel the same way about being straight. Usually ppl say "I am gay/straight because _______", but I don't have anything to fill in the gap, so why make the statement in the first place?

And that is how I describe asexuality.

"If people are going to 'come out' and admit to being gay, they must have a sexual motivation for doing so."Not so, or at very least, not often the case. There are plenty of closeted and or married people who have regular homosexual encounter on the side or on the down low. There's plenty of opportunities for sexual encounters and trysts without "coming out".People "come out", most usually, as an affirmation of their own self acceptance and a deep rooted genuine desire to be themselves. These people finally realize nothing is to be gained by lying to themselves and everyone else about who they actually are. It just so happens that a part of being themselves is an attraction to the same sex.>>>"If the sexual aspect is not going to be there, then there is no point putting oneself through the turmoil of: a) having ppl laugh at you, b) become a loner, c) risk serious injury from a homophobic attack.">>>>"a) having ppl laugh at you..."How about just saying fuck people. There going to laugh at somebody or something anyway. The question is do they matter. I say, no. More than that I say fuck 'em and honestly don't give much of a shit if their laughing at me. I've got more important things to do than worry about what a bunch of douche bags, I don't care about anyway, think of or don't think of me. If their gonna laugh, well I guess at least I brought a little joy into the shitheads lives.>>>>"b) become a lone..."If your friends and family are going to abandon you because your asexual, heterosexual or homosexual then I got news for ya. Your already alone. People who would base their friendship on your sexuality aren't worth calling your friend much less caring about their opinion of you. Again, fuck 'em.>>>>"c) risk serious injury from a homophobic attack."I don't think that's as common as it used to be, depending on where you are of course. You know the people where you're at better than anybody here but, might it be possible, that you're selling them a little short. Sometimes peoples feelings on a subject do a 180 when they find themselves close to the issue. I don't know that to be the case with those that your referring to, I'm just pointing out the possibility.Last thing, remember just because your honest about your sexuality, whatever your orientation may be, doesn't mean you have to walk around advertising it and it doesn't mean most people will know or, for that matter, care.

I'm not sure what you're planning to come out as, but whatever it is, it doesn't involve billboards and newspaper ads. You tell who it matters. You don't need to wear it on your t-shirt.

Even if you never interact with another person, much less have a relationship, you still have some sort of orientation, involving whom you would have sexual and emotional relationships with, for what it's worth.

From your postings, I have the impression that you are desperately unhappy. Your main problem seems to be a psychological one, and is not likely to spontaneously get better. You really need to be under the care of a psychiatrist. It's not a guarantee of a good life, but it's a step in the right direction.

What is your living situation? Who are you living with? Are you working?

you remind me of a song on blood sugar sex magic, atleast I think thats the right album, RHCP.Sir Psycho sexy... you cna google the lyrics yourself, I think it may jsut be a song you should sing while walking around town or sailing.