Yes it's me again....Oof this time, someone I love did something hurtful to me... He lied about something... At first I felt relli hurt and betrayed... But I've forgiven him..... But he cant get over it... He's pretty unstable emotionally, and he keeps telling he wish hed die and that he deserves to be punished horribly... He allready cut in his arm, which needed stitches And he really hates himself and stuff....Does anyone have an idea about what I can do? Nuthing I do seems to help... I keep telling him I care about him and that he's forgiven, but hes like .. he says he doesnt deserve to get away with it that easily
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Frustrated :(
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That sounds like he has a serious problem that needs professional help - encouraging him to get professional treatment might be the best thing you can do.
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**I agree with what ineligable said, the cutting etc is a tad extreme.
How about also thinking of a way he could make it up to you. He seems to be acting this way because he was forgiven.......he obviously feels there should have been some concequences and thats why hes beating himself up about it.
It doesn't have to be anything horrible im suggesting LOL I don't know something small like helping you paint your room or something like that or something he can do for you as a kind of penance, maybe it will make him feel better, its obviously eating away at his concience.**
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What good thinking!
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i happens on the odd occasion hon, tho less and less these days i have to say LOL but thanks xx
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That's our Angel, always thinking outside the box. I think she has an excellent, excellent proactive idea that could go a long way to lesson this guys immediate feelings of guilt and maybe stop some of the self destructive behavior he is engaging in.I would still encourage him to seek professional help, after the immediate crisis is dealt with, as it sounds like he may need more help than you can or should have to give him for his long term emotional stability, if he truly is unstable (depending on the nature of your relationship).
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He is getting help... o.o Thank you all.. i know it's belated but I've been a tad busy these days..