If you think that a new girl will make you happy you hae some work to do on yourself first.Noone else is responisble for you being happy, and noone else can make yuo happy, unless of course your happy with yourself.Id bet there is something more thats eating at you, some bullshit the last girl nitpicked at or something that has become the reason you think she dumped you. you wont be getting a new girl simply because you havent come to terms with what it is thats eating you, they can sense somethings fuckered in your self. You need to figure out what it si and deal with it.I go out alot, Im not always with someone, I go alone often, but Im not lonely. Thats the key difference in overcoming your shit.I walk in teh woods, sometimes for a week or 2 alone with my fly fishing shit and a book or 3. Iv walked a 54 mile trail in the wilderness area between Utah and Wyoming, all alone. Iv been known to go for a drive for days, just to be alone for a while. You dont absolutely have to be with other people to be out of the house and enjoying a good time. Im 100% pussywhipped in love with Julie, but I still value some time alone here and there.Just get off the computer, get out in the world, fuck go fly a kite, go for a hike, sleep out in the cold in theback yard alone under the stars ( I do this regularly to test out some hammock designs Iv been working on for winter backpacking, with a good sleeping bag and the right design Iv been out in negative numbers with out getting cold with wind ripping under my ass and over my head, dont tell me its too cold, you can camp any time of the year) go to a rec center and go swimming, there are number of things you can do alone. Alone gives you time to think shit through, figure out what the problem is and how to deal with it, if it cant be dealt with there is alwasy acepting it. Like my hair, Ill be a bald fucker ina year or two more, there isnt shti to be done about it, I accepted it. It may be a minor problem for you to consider being bald but its beena big deal to me, something Iv been dreading since I was a kid in grade school.The point is, you are t one responsible for you being happy, some shit can be changed, some has to be accepted, figure out what it is thats eating you now and deal with it. Till yuor happy with yourself you wont be finding any girl thats happy with her self.Why settle for some ditzy stupid bitch that isnt someone youd normally want to be with jsut so that your not alone when you can put your self back together and find someone worthy of being with?It took me 32 fucking years to learn that lesson, but atleast I finally learned it.
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I'm suposedly depressed...
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we've all got shit we'd like to forget, and no, I'm not that insecure, Yea, somethign happend I'd like to forget with my old gf, but I'm over it, and you may enjoy being by yourself out in the woods, but I dont, I liek to hang with people, sorry if that makes me a crazy person, Its just who I am.
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The point isnt that you need to gout out inthe woods alone, the point is that if you cant find away to be happy being alone, you wont be happy just by being with someone.
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I'm trying, I just...I dunno, maybe I need a hobby or something...Maybe I'll start golfing again...
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Everyone needs a hobby, more important they need a passion. Mine are climbing and backpacking, I have so many books I ran out of bookcases in my house to put them on. Some dedicated to specific areas of my state and maps of wilderness areas, fucking tons of maps, all toppo showing elevations and roads, more importantly showing where no roads are so i can get away from people that are too lazy to walk back in for more than a mile or 2, I generally try to do atleast 10 miles before I start looking into a final destination for a night.I have books on avalanch survival and recognition of bad places and reading conditions, I have a shit load on survival. Ever watch that idiot on tv that gets dropped off all over and lives to get out with only a water bottle and a knife and a small camera to keep track of what he does? some british guy, a bad mtoher fucker if ya ask me. He rarely suprises me with new information. Its my passion, its where I go and what I think about when I cant think about anything. Its where I work out and solve problems for myself. If golf is someplace you can do that then get to golfing. Everyone should be able to be alone with out being lonely. When you find something to completely occupy yourself alot of shit sorts its self out in your head automatically. Alot of it has to do with relaxing and stopping thinking so damned hard on whats wrong.Its the same reason I like to shovel snow sometimes, its me, alone, I can think, same goes for some long drives I often end up taking or taking off alone on my mountian bike. I often go with other people but Im alwasy ready to go alone.shit if the weathers bad build models, it occupies your mind, lets you concentrate on other things and shit works out in the background of yuor mind. besides that it all builds confidence, confidence in yourself is what yuo need right now. Build yourself up and realize what your worth instead of thinking of yourself as worthless or damaged in some way.I may not be good at ___ but Im fucking fantastic at _____.Any of that make any sense?You have to belive in yourself before someone else can belive in you. I know what it is i want to say to you RV, I just dont know what words to use to get the point across, so I hope you can get atleast some of what I want to say from my fucking maddened ramblings that are scrawled over these pages
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I get it, Its just where i live theres shit all to do, I'll tell my step dad tomorrow that i feel liek golfing again.
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yay! today was the best day I've had in...2 months, and you know what? nothing special happend, I guess i started to do what my msn name is "Livin' my life day by day and minute by minute" I wasnt thinkign abotu my life as a whoel at all today, I just didnt think abotu any of the shyt thats been bugging me in the past, and when i did, i looked at it all from a new perspective ya know? I dunno why today was different than yesterday, all i know is that that was a great friggin day!
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Great to hear!
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Thats why having a passion and hobby helps, it takes you out of the ordinary and lets you soak in shit from a new perspective
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it was weird though, cause i didnt do anything different from what i always do. i didnt go golfing, i dunno, guess I've finaly sorted out that shit.