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alright anal sex is one of those things that i never thought would interest me. i dunno i just had a stigma twards nething that had to do with sex and a poo hole...lol. but neways recently my bf said that he was realy curious about trying it. now my personality is pretty much that i will try anything once, especially if someone i care about expresses curiousity/intrest in it...and i never really had an "OH HELL NO!!!" attitude about it...but yeah so we tryed it...but he only got it in like maby a few centimeters...not even past the glans. and i had to ask him to stop because it hurt like hell and i didnt wanna hurt my self....via riping and such. but it did feel good to me up to that point...like b4 it felt streched to the max it wast uncomfortable. so ne way...he asked me if i would be ok trying again, and i am...i just want to minimize discomfort, and he suggested trying to strech it by fingering me ....so my first question is: would that help, and does ne1 have ne other suggestions to minimize pain so we can actually give it a try?...my other question is: will it strech my rear out really badly?...cuz im a little concerned that if we do get it streched...that it will lead to incontinence eventually...cuz of streching the muscles...i know vaginas are strechy and will shrink back down...but i dont know if anus's r like that? and my 3rd and final question is: how does it feel?...do girls enjoy this?...or is it basicly for the enjoyment of the gye?.....thank you all very muchPS: we r useing condoms and lots of lube when we try this

Using the fingers to relax teh sphinster will definitely help. Also.. LOTS of LUBE.I think the only time you have to worry about stretching out the anus is if you use large objects, because if you think about it.. a large bowel movement is close to the same size of a penis.

Start off with one finger, then move slowly to two. It just needs practice, take it slow and in 2-3 days you 'll be stretched enough for his penis to fit.

2-3 days you 'll be stretched enough for his penis to fit. So you claim that putting in a couple of fingers in the anus daily will stretch out the anus and make it looser? I doubt that. Using the fingers BEFORE penetration will relax the muscles to allow easier penetration.

It didn't take me 2-3 days to stretch enough for anal. My boyfriend fingered me, with two fingers, then we went at it. I thought it was gonna take time to enter, but it just kind slipped right in, we weren't expecting it lol. It hurt at first, but got a little better, although I stopped him. It was just really weird, I like it, the only thing I worry about is if he accidentally got some 'poo' on him (yes I know I could use another word for poo lol). That just creeps me out lol, I'd be really embarrassed, although if he wants anal he should be prepared for what can happen. We tried it a second time and it wasn't bad at all, I just can't get over being nervous about the whole 'poo' thing.

Well that can always happen, just be prepared, use condoms and the clean up is easy.

really, i didnt think that i we would be able to try it that soon after fingering...i guess i assumed that we would have to gradually work up to it over a period of a few days or something...so basicly alot of lube and working up to 2 fingers right b4 we try should be enough?

Originally Posted By: sdp Using the fingers BEFORE penetration will relax the muscles to allow easier penetration. I'm a newbie to the anal scene and all I can say is,Yes this does work. Just proceed slowly, use LOTS of lubeand enjoy. Plus condoms do make clean-up much easier.

Plus condoms do make clean-up much easier.

It is not just that condoms make clean-up easier. Condoms should ALWAYS be used with anal, because it is extremely easy for the man to catch an infection. I'm not referring in saying that to an STD infection, but to an infection from the natural bacteria of the anus and poo. Anal really is dangerous that way.

Human feces is basically water, indigestible food, and dead bacteria. It can contain many different bacterias, including Salmonella, E. Coli, Shigella, Yersinia, and many others.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_fecesAnal sex can be risky. Even when people use lots of lubrication during anal sex, there can be tearing of the tissue inside the anus, which is not as well protected as the skin outside the anus. Our external tissue is “kerotinized,” meaning that it has layers of dead cells that create a thickened protective barrier. The tissue inside the anus does not have this feature. Without plenty of lubrication, anal tissue can tear quite easily, creating openings where bacteria and viruses can enter and cause disease problems, such as anal cancer or HIV/AIDs transmission.Even if the anus has been washed thoroughly, do not let anything that has touched it come in contact with the vagina or urethra. Lots of bacteria live in the anus and they can cause infections in the vagina or urethra. This is the reason women are taught to wipe front to back, to avoid spreading diseases to the front. Even if you and your partner have no STIs (sexually transmitted infections) or STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), he should always use a condom (with extra lubrication) for anal sex, then replace that with a fresh new condom before starting vaginal sex. The condom will protect him from bacterial infections from inside the anus.http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=faq&refid=125The rectum is filled with highly sensitive nerve endings, so the recipient can enjoy the act without fear of pregnancy, however the rectum doesn’t produce the natural lubrication that the vagina does, so it is very very important to use lubrication, such as K-Y jelly or Astroglide. It is also important to stress that anal intercourse is the riskiest sexual behavior because the lining of the rectum is so sensitive and easily torn. Tears in the rectum make the transmission of HIV and other STDs easy. If a couple decides to engage in anal intercourse they should use condoms and proceed slowly. It helps to first start off by inserting a well-lubricated finger or two, just to get the rectum comfortable with the feeling of something being inside of it. The muscles around the rectum are tight and are not used to objects being inserted, so it will take time to become comfortable with this. But make sure the fingers are clean and nails are cut short as possible to prevent tearing the rectal lining or causing infections. Once the partner has become comfortable with fingers being inserted, the couple can attempt to insert the penis.http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=activity&refid=008

I did, didn't I? Whoopsies. That wasn't my intention. Well, I have to credit Thoughtful for bringing up the excellent point that was made in the first place.EDIT : His post actually reminded me of war. I believe in past wars, bamboo or wood sticks were sharpened and placed to impale enemies (also known as punji sticks) and then rubbed with feces or other poisons to promote very quick infection. From what I understand, if a soldier was stabbed in a limb by a punji stick with feces on it, he would be very lucky if it did not have to get amputated because of the spread of the infection.

He sure did Helmsman. That's the kind of thing I was referring to. Websex did a great job!

Originally Posted By: ThoughtfulHe sure did Helmsman. That's the kind of thing I was referring to. Websex did a great job! Yes he did, and a good thing too, My dick could have rotted off tonight!!!

alright yesterday we tried it again....but since we were in a time crunch...we desided to try it slowly with out fingering...and it felt fine up to when he got in about 2 inches then it REALLY hurt....i told him not to go in any further...but it kinda sliped in a bit more and damn did that hurt....we stoped and i went to the bathroom and when i wiped, i was bleeding...it seems to of stoped....but im still kinda scared...i dont want to get cancer or an infection, am i ok since it has stoped bleeding?....

thank you i was really starting to get freaked out. we will definitly try that aproach next time

What web sex did was ruin my thoughs of ass fucking for a few days.If Im not over it by the weekend web, Ill hunt yuo down and hurt you. Right now though I have some very large trees to take down and pull the stumps, maybe some assbusting work will get this thread out of my mind.Whats this new information do to people that like to lick assholes? I guess no porno style butt-tounge fucking.

Are you guys using any water based lube? And if not, why not?

Quote:have him get you FULLY aroused vaginally, perhaps maybe have an orgasm or two or three, (so you are completely relaxed) THEN try the backdoor thing - it will make a world of difference.That works for me.

LOL! Welp, you could always just use one of those pronto condoms so you won't have to skip a beat. Haha. I'm very protective of my buddy down there, so if I decide to engage in anal sex anytime soon I will be using a condom. I prefer vaginal intercourse anyway. shrugs

yes we are...guite alot actually. gets everywhere infact...it seems to help as far as initial entry goes...but after a certian point it feels like there is a knife in my rear (sorry for the mental picture)...i just am at a loss as to how prevent this discomfort other than fingers first and penis later