Bit of a conundrum

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I have these friends that are married. I would consider both of them to be best friends of mine. Not too long ago Jane cheated on Joe (names have been changed) with a guy that i know well, Bill. Jane and Joe are now getting divorced and Jane is back in her hometown in the middle of the country whilst Joe is staying on the east coast. I am in Australia right now but am returning home soon and I have started a relationship with Bill's younger sister but nobody knows about it. How do I tell my friend Joe that Im dating the younger sister of the guy that his former wife cheated on him with?

I had a relationship with this girl when we were in 5th grade and have recently found her agian. Another problem i have is that with his newly found freedom, he is expecting us to go out womanising when i get back. How should i deal with that?

You sure you want to date this girl?I mean yuor already sabotaging the relationship looking for a problem.Your dating the sister of the guy your buddies wife fucked.... so what?It has nothign to do with him, or in fact his ex.Its a whole new person. Maybe youll lose the girl before it ever comes up, maybe hell meet her one day and not give a shit.It has nothing to do with him though, not a damned thing.She didnt fuck joes wife, her brother did.If he does act like an ass when he finds out, slap the fuck outta him, its a seperate situation.

my buddys that I used to go out whoring with got over it when I got with one girl after years of being there for whore night got over it when I stopped. disapointed, but fine.Its my life, Ill do what I please and date who I please.

Ok. so far you havent given me an good advice whatsoever. I know she is a completely seperate entity from her brother. And I know he shouldnt have an issue with it. But I think he is the kind of person that might. And Im not going to "slap the fuck" out of my best friend. Thats just stupid. And no Im not trying to find an out from this relationship by looking for something like this. I feel this is a legitimate problem. Im just looking for some good advice as to how I should go about telling him that Im dating the sister of the guy his wife slept with.

What I gave is godo advice, from my point of view.and Iv slapped the fuck out of several of my friends over stupid shit they did to interfere in my life.If they have a problem with what Im doing its thier problem, notmine. If they cant deal with it I dont need them in my fucking life.Take the advice or leave it, you requested it.Dont ell me its not good or valid though.This is a public site, I can only ell you what I think of it as anyone else can.now stuff your conundrum up your ass.

Your right in that this is public and i should not have dismissed your advice like that. I apologise for that. However I just dont understand why every other word has to be fuck or ass. And why all of you comments have something to do with being hostile in one way or another. Thank you for the attmept though. Much appreciated.

its fucking who the fuck I happen to be, asshat.
Im a hostile, agitated mother fucker. It comes from driving with you assholes, in traffic. and having real fucking worries and responsabilities.
fuck one ass two shit three piss four.
Everyother word is hard to do, I think Ill stick to my normal falir and type like I talk, too much fucking work the otherway.

Whatever floats your boat dude. I talk like that too but theres a difference between how someone should type and how they speak. It conveys your ideas better if you use some kind of class. Just so you know. But thats what you do, and its not my place to tell you how to do your shit.

Hmmm... I can see why Joe could possibly find your dating Bill's sister somewhat of a traitor-like action if he's in a very sensitive state. I'm not sure that's your problem. It's more his problem and maybe you can help him see past it if he finds it offensive. You're going to have to weigh the situation yourself. Is engaging in this relationship with this girl is worth the risk of losing your friendship with Joe?I honestly think if Joe does have a problem with it, he'll get over it once he's thinking without his current situation messing with his head. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then no worries. What do you think?

Im happy you have posed that question. It got me thinking about it in a way I couldnt before. Not sure why. Thanks much.