Ok, my kiddo is 13 almost 14, and she has had her period for almost 2 years. We are open in discussion, and she still talks to me about alot (though I am sure not ALL of it).Anyway her periods are getting harder and harder on her. She hurts SOOOO bad, and spends the first 2 to 3 days doubled over and white with pain. I currently give her over the counter meds to releive the pain, suggest to her the heating pad, and/or a warm shower. Nothing seems to be helping.I doubt that she is sexually active, infact, I doubt she has even kissed a boy. I am considering putting her on B.C. pills to help with the menstration, but have a few concerns. First, I am concerned with the "permission" that it might give her, exposing her to sti's and just the consequences of sex in general.Secondly, I am concerned that she would have to have a pelvic exam done. I know she isn't ready for that, but I really want to do something to ease her pain. I know I can find this one out by talking to her pediatrician but thought I would ask here if any one knew.
Oppinions on permission.
My wife went on oral contraceptives to relieve menstrual cramps, and it made a huge difference. In my view that makes them medical treatment. I don't see them as permission for anything, and I doubt she will, either. Fear of pregnancy is not, I believe, the main factor that decides whether a girl will have sex or not.
I can seriously understand where you're coming from Jen, and i have to say that i would be wanted to do anything to stop the pain etc. I think its one of those scary decisions we have to make when we hope we have been good parents, as in, you have taught your daughter enough self respect etc NOT to sleep with a guy, just cos she can't now get pregnant........which i'm sure you have.I know you will do whats best for her hon, and if birth control is gonna stop the pain, then you have to have faith in yourself as a parent and your daughter as the person she is, to still do the right thing.
Thanks guys. I TOTALLY forgot about the herb thing. It is just something I have barely started myself.
I spoke with another member who regularly talks to my daughter on msn, and was encouraged, just the same as here. She is still pretty innocent, and doesn't remind them of a teen yet. Things just change so fast in teen years.
I like the idea that it is medical treatment (which it truly is) and to leave it at that with her. She is not stupid, she would know exactly what they are..lol. But a different approach may make a bit of difference.
Angel, your right. I have raised her right, she isn't even kissing the boys, because she is afraid one thing will lead to another.
She is a pretty driven girl, and being knocked on her ass for a few days a month just kills her. She didn't even play with her new puppy this last week...
I'm just a mommy scared of taking a wrong turn with a wonderful girl!
aww hunn im sure your daughter will be just fine. she has a wonderful mother
You ain't been around long enough to see some of my decisions! lolMaybe she will have learned from my mistakes..rolls eyes I am only 31, she is almost 14...you do the math..lol
I think your right about that.But it does make the choice easier, if your already on it then what harm can sex do?Its more about how she was raised and what morals she has had instilled in her than the BC pills being available.Might help if Jen sat down with her and explained its medication, not a permission slip to be whoring around.Never hurts to reinforce a point instead of jsut assuming that the child gets it on thier own.
Herbs ?? what fucking herbs?
somewhat off topic now, but my last reply was on topic and what I think of your predicamint, so Im going slightly off now because its raised a question of my own.
Julie cant take BC, We been down thta road before the results are not good and its alot due to her high blood pressure ( her entire family has it, younger sisters, mother, father, grandparents, everyone) and some shit specific to her. She can not take BC. She does have horrid fucking periods though. 2 to 3 days of laying around, crying from pain, fucking horrid cramps. after the initial onset of it shes fine and can go on like nothing is wrong short of wearing the protection so dictated by a vagina belching blood.
She has an appointment early next month to look into somethign else that can be done. at this point they are thinking about painkillers for a few days every month.
Im not against that idea, but if there is something less addictive and what not available to try, why not? at this point Id feed her ground up elk horns in armadillo piss with carrots if I thought it would help.
So do tell, whats the ancient chinese secret?
where can i get it? all that sorta shit.
Its nto fair to bring it up, and not expand on it further for anyone that might stumble on this thread and need that same information so do share :laughing:
did I guilt ya into it?
asking may of worked too but I like to hedge my bets.
Originally Posted By: GrvtykllrI think your right about that.But it does make the choice easier, if your already on it then what harm can sex do?My concern exactly. IF the heat of the moment arrises, it is really easy to forget about condom use if she is on the pill. I know it was for me...But I didn't have the communication with my parents that I have with her.IF we choose that route, there will be a lot of discussion about STI's (there already is but we will do another round with a doctor) and she will understand why the pill is being instituted.
You are going about it the right way. Communication is key. I also suffered from pain and heavy periods when i just started and I was put on birht control pills and they helped a lot. And it did not "give me permission" to have sex. I waited many years before my first sexual experience. Your daughter seems to have a good head on her shoulder, I wouldn't worry ! Just keep the communication door open. I have 2 sons, young adults now and we have always talked. With them I stressed the importance of respecting the girls they went out with. We talked about STD and pregnancy. And I hammered it in their heads constantly Even though at times I thought they weren't listening, I never gave up ! lol... nag, nag, lol..and so far, I think some things we talked about have sunk in !
I was first put on birth control at a young age for cramps. I din't have to get a pelvic exam done.