Paying

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Soo.. when you're going out with your significant other.. whos the one who pays?Do you go dutch?Does he/she pay?Take turns?Lets seee....

I'll usually pay for almost everything, but not everything.

When I'm in a relationship with someone, sometimes I pay sometimes she pays. Most of the girls I have a relationship want to do something for me, so they pay every so often. If I'm just getting to know a girl and we're on a date, I feel like I should pay for her if she doesn't say anything. If she wants to pay for her own stuff then I let her.

We trade off. Usually he pays though. We don't go out that often though, so if it is dinner at my house, he buys, I cook. If it is at his house I buy, he cooks. It just kinda works out that way. Cause, if he is comming here, he can stop somewhere on his way out, and if I am headed there, I can stop. I live in BFE, so, I won't just run to town for a good dinner. He lives in town, so I like to get there earlier with food,so we can eat earlier.I wonder how it's gonna really work when were living together????

Food I pay, chocolates and stuff she does. She's so sweet!

Who ever grabs the check first, it doesn't make much of a difference. In the very very begining, he paid though because he felt obligated I guess.

i pay. she offers but i still pay.

Haha, you reminded me of my first date, someone told me that because I was the guy I absolutely had to pay for the meal so I ended up nearly forcing the money down my poor date's throat, I was so determined to pay for it...aahh, good times.

That would irritate me >.<

It depends... If I invited 'him' out I wouldn't hesitate to whip out my check book and pay, no problem. If 'he' feels the need to pay, I might argue a bit about splitting it or letting me get it, but if he insisted he pay then by all means TYA. It really doesn't matter to me though.

if it's her idea then i would let her pay. like for valentine day she treated me. we did a deal thing. i paid for dinner and she paid for my choice movie. i usually don't even ask her. i just pay. sometimes she'll say i'll get mine tonight but i pay anyway. i just get to the ticket window first or grab the bill and pay b4 she digs out her money. it's just easer to pay a bill than sit around waiting on them to divide it up. if she really wanted to pay i'd let her but she hasn’t had a fit about it yet. me paying for her just means she has more money to go shopping with lol. my gf has a shop addiction I think.Wut I didn’t like is she got us a hotel room on my birthday and she used her birthday money to do it. We did get into a small argument about it. I told her I’d pay for it but she wouldn’t take it so then I told her I’d pay her back half since she wouldn’t take all of it. She wouldn’t do that either. She shouldn’t have used her money she was given to do that. She should have went shopping with it. She wouldn’t take it so I put half in her purse when she wasn’t looking.

we go dutch and he pays on the same night sometimes, but besides that, he mostly pays.

Normally I did when we were dating.I had mroe money than she did.Now that she lives with me we pay, instead of one or the other.I pay some bills she pays others, who ever has the most cash pays for drive thru shit, if I knwo we are going out Ill hit an ATM and get cash to cover shit, but really, living together it all comes out of the same pocket, we dont have my money and her money. The closest we get to that is who has what amount of cash on them at any given time we need to pay for something and havent been to the bank recently.

It's more of a "we" pay now. At first either one of us paid but mostly he did.

Oh....she was, believe me. :laughing:

snickers nice

For us it is a bit different. We are usually feeding kids. So I feel bad if he is taking care of all of us, he has one, I have two.But when we escape them he does pay. I don't feel guilty, nor does he, with what we have. It just works.BUT, last Saturday, he was on call, and I took all of our kids to a fishing derby, it was an over night thing, and he just dumped a $20 into my pocket...I was greatful, but, I had it covered...Dating with kids changes the rules I think.

Being the 21st century n all id look to go halfs with a date although i wouldnt let my date pay for it all, id rather if it was the case.If we are drinking id hope to take it in rounds who goes up though.

when we met she had 4, I had two, dinner often set me back 60 bucks when it was a weekend we both had our kids.You are right though, kids change dating.I did it then so I could be with her, and they were not bad kids, pleasant to be around. I had mroe money than she did, I made more thats all.these years later they are jsut part of the family, I think nothing more about buying them christmas and birthdays and dinner and tickets for movies and what not then she does when shes buying my kids stuff.She had 3 from her marriage, got knocked up with number four and the donor who knocked her up ran out of town and was never seen again. Number four is now my number 3.Hes currently shitting bricks because he knows we ar leaving for camping in the morning and we can "buy mellows, and fire them, and blow them, and eat them"Hes also happy as shit because we will be where he can throw rocks in the water.

I get that! We just do yummy stuff at home, it works out better that way. Especially since my youngest and his kid, fight ALL the time. They are both bullies, and getting a taste of their own medicine.Were doing the camping thing Father's day weekend. My crew is getting pretty excited too..lol