I'm unsure about... just about everything, actually. I'm not sure if I'm depressed or not, however.Life has thrown me a wicked curve this past year. I've been placed, mostly from my own actions, in positions where I'm constantly told I'm in the wrong. Which as we all know, tends to make you feel pretty worthless.I just got out of a bad job/living situation and started fresh in a new state, but it's happening all over again. I'm continually wrong at work and home. I'm constantly made to feel like I'm screwing up. Decisions from handling break-ups to the way I mop the floor.Now, I'm not so filled with hubris to say I am never wrong, but I don't even think it's humanly possible to be wrong in every decision made. It's to the point where I have no one to talk to (hence the reason I'm on here) and am wondering if my lack of enthusiasm and constant mood swings (between anger and weeping) could be depression. I've generally heard depression associated with suicide, which is not where I am.If anyone can offer some insight into what I've offered, it would probably help. I'm a little lost now and can't find my way out. Do I really need to re-evaluate things or just find someone to actually LISTEN!?
I think if your situation isn't right, in your opinion, or you want change, then it's probably time to reevaluate. If the same problems and bad situations keep rising, then it's time to throw a wrench into the machine and do something differently, but that's just my opinion (anyone on here that hears me ramble, knows I just love change and doing exciting things). In my opinion, you can't make a truly wrong decision, because when you are making it, you don't know it will be. You can make a misguided, or perhaps not wise decision, but not wrong, and you can't be wrong on everything. Also, try to separate yourself from being told your wrong constantly, that's probably causing or adding to depression.If you don't mind my asking, would you like to elaborate on what happened?
When people move from one situation to another and continue to have problems, the most obvious conclusion is that they brought the problems along with them, even if unconsciously.
However, that's sometimes unfair - sometimes it really is just bad luck.
It's really hard to tell from a distance without knowing a lot more.
Originally Posted By: Java_AddictIf you don't mind my asking, would you like to elaborate on what happened? I moved from one job where the boss and I disagreed about everything. I was a nanny and we just couldn't come to any decent conclusions. Her way of raising children and mine were polar opposites. Obviously, I tried to do it her way - she's the boss. I was told daily that I need to improve myself and that I'm the one at fault. Not only was I at fault for the way I wanted to work with the children, I was "dim-witted" or "naive" with my opinions - from my views on travel, politics or even the weather (no, not kidding). I quit and moved across the country. Obviously I'm not going to change how someone wants to raise their children, nor should I need to - despite my thinking she didn't have the childrens' best interests at heart. That kind of job happens, I get that. I just started another job at a restaurant a couple of weeks ago and it feels like it's happening all over again. I don't feel like I'm doing things wrong - I actually thought I was doing pretty well. Then I got a semi-lecture from the new boss about how I need to shape up and focus. Since then, I haven't been able to think about much else. My way of folding napkins to the way I time the meals or clear tables is incorrect. And normally I would think I am really messing up, but I see the other waitresses doing the same thing. The only difference is, they aren't getting reprimanded.I've tried to ask for advice on what I can improve but all of their suggestions or examples are from something I did one time - because I felt it necessary at the time. It's like they're taking one decision and generalizing it into a habit. And it's not the customers that are complaining, it's the boss or another co-worker.I really can't figure out how to work this out. I'm getting this at work, home and was from my former relationship. How do I deal with being considered "wrong" when I don't feel like any of my decisions are? Am I surrounded by people who can't see past their personal scope or am I the one with blinders on?
Okay to me it sound's like you just keep picking TWATS to work for/with.. I found myself in a simular situation at one point..
It's self-confidence that is making you feel depressed, If all you're doing is getting put down all the time, then no wonder why you feel the way you do.
ADVICE for you ... If what you do at work is to the best of your ability and you are willing to learn, but no one is there to teach you OR appriciate the work that you do do, then i would find another environment to work in, because you are not obligated to stay there and be verbally and/or emotionally abused.
And that is exactly what it sounds like. Don't let people be-little you, Don't let them run you down.
It's not you it's all the fucked off people in this world. Just remember that every experience makes you stronger, and the stronger you are the harder it will be for people to bring you down.
As far as the "home" life goes i don't know your situation there, just that i'm guessing you've had a bad relationship, that didn't do to much for your confidence either.