Well for the past few months I have really liked this girl and she knows it, she started like me first while she had a boyfriend but now they broke up, (apparently because of me) and I would say we're kind of together, but not "officially." I know they still hang out together just by the way she will stay stuff. Well I got a call tonight while I was sleeping and she was drunk and asked me for a ride home so me not wanted her or anyone else to get hurt by her driving home I agreed to pick her up. So I get to the house to pick her up and its her ex-boyfriends house. I call her and tell her to come outside and on her way out the ex-boyfriend comes out but she turns around and they go back in I can see her give him a hug and kiss goodbye and say "I'll see you soon". Am I being played? And is it worth trying to get into a relationship with her? I just don't know anymore, I mean I have to admit the girl is everything I have ever wanted, but I'm not sure if its worth getting hurt over.
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Being misleaded?
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If she hasn't given up her ex the situation doesn't look hopeful.
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(I do this a lot, but it helps me understand things better, so deal with it)This is what's happening if I'm reading this right: This girl knows you like her, she broke up with her b/f (because of you, maybe) and you guys are un-officially going out. But she still hangs out and chills with her ex? That doesn't bother you? I'd talk to her about this.Or don't talk to her, since the other thing happened. She called you saying she needed a ride home, and you (like a good friend) go to pick her up from her ex-b/fs house... and she gives him a kiss and hug before she leaves?That's pretty fucked up if you ask me. Definetely talk to her about this (and don't take the "I was drunk I didn't know what was going on" excuse). That would piss me off if I was in your shoes, but it sounds like she's over you and trying to get with him, in which case she used the hell out of you for that ride. Why couldn't he take her home?!?
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Meh.... Talk to her. Also.. let me give you the best advice imagenable.Don't let her drop the conversation.Don't Let her change the subject.Don't let her be ambiguous.Make sure her answers are clear, precise, ontopic and they are good.The biggest crush of my life lead me on by not clearly answering anything for a loong time. By the time she did I was already obsessed. (not in a stalking following her around type situation) however, more in a huge emotional attachment sense that I didn't want to let go xD.If she had been more clear up front... it would have saved me ALOT of issues. It was basically me leading myself on and edit her knowing this and letting me.So.. make sure any reaons are good. clear and make sense..
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Maybe she hugged and kissed him cuz she was really drunk
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Ha. Ha. Ha.I have been drunk. I have had to quite literally crawl into bed and have a vomit bucket right there.This was after drinking alot of horrible wine and I don't just mean sipping.I have had a buzz where everything seems great and happy and fun.I have been inbetween flat on my ass drunk and a buzz.No where in that spectrum did I get so confused I'd be willing to go and do something with an ex. *edit that I was trying to sever ties with.Which brings me to another point.. Why even get drunk NEAR an ex? I am sorry but, certain ideas are bad from the get go. Getting drunk with an ex is one of them. Any time you get drunk it provides the perfect excuse for something to happen. So I really personally wouldn't take that as an excuse.
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No where in that spectrum did I get so confused I'd be willing to go and do something with an exUh, I dunno what kinda shit you've been drinking or how much your limit is, but I'm a little skinny dude and I've gotten so drunk that I followed a bunch of people (mostly chicks) into a pool (over the wall) at 2a.m. in the morning and stripped down to my boxrs and jumped in with them. So yes, it's defineetly bppossible to get that drunk to kiss some random ex.
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Quote: No where in that spectrum did I get so confused I'd be willing to go and do something with an exUh, I dunno what kinda shit you've been drinking or how much your limit is, but I'm a little skinny dude and I've gotten so drunk that I followed a bunch of people (mostly chicks) into a pool (over the wall) at 2a.m. in the morning and stripped down to my boxrs and jumped in with them. So yes, it's defineetly bppossible to get that drunk to kiss some random ex. I don't even remember how much wine I had.. but, I do remember having to crawl into bed. My brother kicking me in my sides when I was doing it. And I know it was over 5 nice sized glasses of wine. I still wouldn't have considered doing something with an ex. I'm no expert, Hell it coulda just been the fact that I was drinking at home instead of out with a group. I don't drink in public for many many a reasons. Actually now I don't drink at all for one good one. I'm no expert not saying its impossible. However, I am saying I wouldn't take it as an excuse.. especially if I am not already really attached to the girl in question because of another point I made which was Getting drunk with an ex is never a good idea. Common sense should trigger and say "HEY THATS A BAD IDEA" from the get go.Maybe its just me.. however, drinking a substance which is infamous for debilitating senses, altering the way the brain works, and over all impairs senses of every variety from problem solving to physical senses. And consuming this substance with someone you already feel emotionally confused about is a good idea in what aspect?