So I think I might have mentioned before about how my brother is a compulsive lier. It's maddening. Sometimes I can't even stand to be around him.So I met his new girlfriend today at my niece's birthday party. My brother is out of town, but she brought her little girl. Nice girl I'd say. But she's talking about my brother and telling me things he's told her and THEY'RE ALL LIES! Like: She's from Louisville. Moved down here a year before I did. Well, my brother told her he used to live in the same apartment complex she did at the same time she did and at the same time his then-fiance did. That is a bold faced lie straight out of the pit of hell. He was living in an apartment with me when he started dating M and living at the same place when they finally broke up for good. Then she talks about how he must be one of those guys who will do the exact opposite of what he's told, and she's saying she's basing that on stories he's told her. And I'm thinking, again, those stories are ALL LIES! And it just pissed me off. I wanted to sabotage it for him. In fact, I did cast doubt on him living there when she did.So...would a good man just leave things alone and let this really nice girl who deserves better just take in all these lies on a daily basis, with no way of knowing they're lies? Or is there really any other option that won't make me the bad guy?
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Lies and more lies
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I would confront your brother about it and put pressure on him to confess to her. I wouldn't get in the middle of it by telling her that all those things he said were lies.
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Hey hon, I would actually suggest that you confront your brother about the 'lies' he's filling her head with rather than telling her about them yourself. I'd pressure him into confessing to her about the lies because if you reveal the truth about them to her and 'spoil' this image she has of your brother, it could backfire on you even though you’re trying to do the right thing.
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I am gonna echo what everyone else said.
Compulsive liars are hard though, you can confront him, but I doubt it will change his behaviour.
If you need to, when your around them both. Just slip up, and say something about something that he has lied about. Like: "Remember that time in (insert year he was living in the apartment complex) when you (insert funny, or what ever), You know when you lived at (the real place he lived)"
Then it seems done in innocence, but she will catch on to his lying, and you did nothing wrong.
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Funny thing...I went by Advanced Auto after work to get the stuff my brother told me I needed to fix the upholstery or whatever you call it on the roof of my car. And who's in there? My brother. Wearing a shirt working there again. I didn't know this.He asked me what I though of her. I told him. Then I asked him how much he was paying her to be his girlfriend. He smiled and said "Let's not talk about that. Why do you think I started working here again?"For a pathological lier, he's a funny guy.I think I'm gonna let it go right now. They've just started dating. I'll wait and give her time to figure him out. If it turns out they get really serious and it looks like there's a danger of her becoming sister-in-law...that will be the point I will need to make a decision. Right now...I've got my own crap to deal with. I'm not gonna take his stuff on.I appreciate the input nonetheless.