Can you "pop a cherry" more than once???

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ok to be honest im needing help......and im not really sure where this question might go... but i figured id give it a shot here....

as you know me and my fiance have been having sex, i didnt bleed the first time but i did bleed one of the first times he fingered me... awhile ago.... tonight me and him were fooling around.... him fingering me again, tryin to avoid sexual intercourse. .... but when i went to clean up.... i was bleeding... not heavily but extremely lightly... almost to where the blood was a pinky color...

what might this be caused from if he had already "popped my cherry?"

It's possible that he scratched you or tore a bit of skin. Was he being a bit rough?

well he was thrusting kinda hard.... but there was no pain or anything... if he was to finger me analy..... would that leave blood? and should my stomach be hurting towards my uterus?

Originally Posted By: jennC

well he was thrusting kinda hard.... but there was no pain or anything
Well, either way, you'll be okay in a couple of days. A small piece of advice to remember is to use lube while he fingers you so it's easier on you and lessens the chance of bleeding again. This happened to me before and I realized it was because I was dry and he was being a bit rough. Lesson learned. :blush:

Originally Posted By: jennC

if he was to finger me analy..... would that leave blood? and should my stomach be hurting towards my uterus?
Only if you don't use lube. He can easily cause a tear if he's not careful. As for your stomach, when does it begin to hurt?

lube next time FOR SURE then... thanks ;Pas for my stomach, it started hurting right after he pulled out his fingers, it was a slight pressure at first, that was about a hour ago.. right now though its a little bit more than a pressure, it feels like some one just punched my stomach from the inside... im not sure how to exlpain it, just a sort of sharp pressure :s

Ouch. :frowning:

I'm afraid my mind is drawing a blank, so if anyone else has an idea what might be causing your pain, I'd suggest seeing your gynecologist.

Orgasm and sex can cause the uterus to cramp and/or tension on ligaments in the adbomen. That can cause the dull ache.

but it wasnt a dull pain, it was fairly sharp. sort of like being pin pricked but harder.... i have my bellybutton pierced and the pain was sharper than it felt when i get things pierced?

There can be a remnant of hymen left after it is broken, that could tear again. That's one possible explanation for getting blood a second time.

ok..... another question... if it is a tear, how long should it take to heal, and isnt there a chance of infection, if so what is a possible way to lessen the chance of it. me and my fiance were having sex two nights ago and it really hurt... like REALLY! it didnt even hurt at all like this when i gave him my virginity....then tonight we were just fooling around and he was going to finger me but it hurt too? could this be the possible tear?

Quote:if it is a tear, how long should it take to heal,If I remember correctly, it took me about 3-4 days to completely heal. Do NOT have sex or masturbate until there is no more pain! The reason why it hurt for you is because you aren't healed yet.As for an infection, I don't know what the chances are but as long as you keep yourself clean, you should be fine.

ok... that sounds reasonable... is there any way to figure out where the tear might be because when he does finger me, it hurts towards the bottom og my vagina like the bottom middle of the outside of me?

Check yourself in front of a mirror and you may be able to see the tear.

since i had sex right after the tear was made, could it either tear more or get infected from the lubricant from the condom?

It could tear more, making it longer for yourself to heal and causing more irritation and pain for your genitals. But can it get infected from the lube? I don't believe so.

ok.... thanks.... do you think you can help me with one other question.... are lack of taste and lack of appetite and nausea (usually ing the morning or at noght, or after i eat something) side effects of the birthcontrol Yaz? because i have been having those symtoms on and off since i started the pill almost 3 months ago..... could this be from the pill?

Oh, you mean your other post? Well, the reason I didn't answer that one is because I'm not on the pill (I use the patch), so I don't know anything first hand. It does sound like the pill is causing you to be sick, but maybe someone else here knows better.I say, if the problem gets worse, best to see your doctor.

have you ever been on the pill, if so do you think the patch is easier? and thank you... i see my gyno wednesday about my pills anywyas, hopefully this is somethng that can be helped...sigh

Originally Posted By: jennChave you ever been on the pill, if so do you think the patch is easier?No, I've never been on the pill. I decided to use the patch instead because I have a poor memory and I was afraid I would forget to take the pill.For me, it's easier. But there are other methods and you should see which one is best for you.

im the same way, very forgetful.... sad but true lol and the patch was honestly my next in line decision if the pill didnt work out, but i was afraid of it coming off, or somehow being removed during sex, or anything like that. one of my girlfriends told me how she is on the shot and it works for her, but i heard that with the shot it can make you infertile? is that true? and what are some other options other than the pill, the patch, and the shot for birthcontrol(not meaning condoms and things liek that)??????