It seems like you think you know better than her what she's ready for.
And I think that rationale is wrong, Star- worrying about risks like pregnancy is part of what DOES make you ready for sexual activity.
Anyways, I guess I never made my point with my previous posts. It's sort of a moot point whether or not we all think the OP and his unrepresented g/f are ready for sexual activity- they're having it already. Unless I missed it, he didn't ask whether we thought it was a good idea.
I guess because of my own age I tend to be (over)sensitive to the threads some people say that others aren't ready for or shouldn't yet be having sex.
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Something new ?
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No, i think you are completely right, I actually was still typing my post when yours went up, so I didn't read it until afterwards, nothing I said was intended to reply to yours CR125.And God it sucks being ticklish, doesn't it?! lol.
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Quote:it sucks being ticklish, doesn't it?! lol. lol yea.. and worse when girls know it. no i take that back it's worse when u got a older brother. lol i wonder why some people have ticklish bodies oand other not......... humm that might be a good question for pete. LMAO but i dk.. i need to finish reading this thread. i didn't rlise he was.. i dk. i was thinking he was like a older teen. like it or not younger teens are having ......well sexual play. hummm i dk abotu the wording.. i dk
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Yeah, sorry about my wording, I suppose, I know that they're not having sex, that's why I said sexual activity, because I meant oral sex, manual, dry sex, whatever it is that they ARE doing.I was never attempting to advocate that our OP should go have sex with his g/f, in fact I think it's incredibly admirable that he is respecting her wishes not to have intercourse yet. If they wanted to, that would be fine by me, too.
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Originally Posted By: cocky727It seems like you think you know better than her what she's ready for.And I think that rationale is wrong, Star- worrying about risks like pregnancy is part of what DOES make you ready for sexual activity.So, if I got a pre-cum on me and start jumping to the conclusion that I could be pregnant because my boyfriend didn't use a condom and start pleading for help, that makes me ready for sex?The point is is that they can do OTHER things besides sexual activity. I don't get why they can't do other things, instead of trying to grow up so fast.
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Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star
The point is is that they can do OTHER things besides sexual activity. I don't get why they can't do other things, instead of trying to grow up so fast.[/size][/font][/color]
They CAN do other things, but they can do these things too if they so choose and I don't think its anybody's place to tell them otherwise.
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Again, she isn't ready to do more than what they are doing now, that's why there's not much ideas to share, except just giving up sexual activity UNTIL she get's her head straight.Dude, come on. He said his girl freaked out at the sight of precum. It's common knowledge that guys produce precum, so there's nothing that can be helped there. So, what more can they do?Of course, that problem can be eliminated if he wore a condom, if it would make her feel better.ADDED:Oh, and that is why I stick to my original suggestion and support Helms' frisbee idea.
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And again, I will remind you that I was never advocating that they have sex, assuming that's what you mean by "do more." I took it that the OP was asking about "doing different" not "doing more" and answered accordingly.She said she wanted to try new things. The OP has clarified that he was looking for games and what-not, suggestions like using ice cubes.I feel like you've missed my every point completely, Star, and/or perhaps I've missed yours. Originally I had set out to try to help focus this thread on feedback that the OP might actually find useful, and I was trying to direct the flow of conversation back towards answering his question, rather than telling him that he and/or his g/f are not ready for sex, sex acts, et cetera. Obviously I have failed at this particular goal because we've just gotten even further distracted since then.SO, in another effort to bring it back, I will comment on the unique valid point that I think Star has made: a condom might be a decent idea, I suggest to the O.P., who shall probably be rather overwhelmed by this thread the next time he logs on. Removing the stress of pregnancy-scares (and even just mess scares) from the situation might improve sexual relations for you two. It might seem silly, but it also might be really worth it, if you give it a shot.
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Originally Posted By: cocky727
And again, I will remind you that I was never advocating that they have sex, assuming that's what you mean by "do more." I took it that the OP was asking about "doing different" not "doing more" and answered accordingly.
She said she wanted to try new things. The OP has clarified that he was looking for games and what-not, suggestions like using ice cubes.
Actually, I meant do more sexual games and what not, not sexual intercourse. I guess I didn't word my post more accurately. Sorry 'bout that.By what I meant is they can't really touch each other while having their sex games. He's going to leak a lot (he's a kid) and if she's worried of having any precum near her genitals, fearing the possiblity of pregnancy, then what more can they do? That's why I suggested a condom.