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Originally Posted By: bobaliciousHe said that it was because I don't have any fear of the consequences of doing nothing. Which is true, I have the mentality that altho doing nothing will mean that nothing good happens, it also means that nothing terrible will happen either.Bingo! I believe that's a big part of it. So far, your mindset has cost you absolutely nothing. But at some point it will. I know for me, what was required for me to get off my butt and do something that meant something, was for the fear of staying in the rut I was in to exceed the fear of stepping out and taking a chance on something that scared the hell out of me. When it did it, my life was changed irrevocably.You talk about being unmotivated and not doing well in school. But I wish to point out that you are a very smart guy. Very smart indeed. You've done something right. And I also can't help believing that the mere fact that you posted all this is an indication that you possess - somewhere - a healthy striving for something more. Seems to me like there is a bit of motivation there somewhere, even if it is only the feeling that you should, at your age, be up to something more.Finally, I totally agree with Angel. Get up and do SOMETHING. Doesn't have to be major. Just shake it up a bit. Like the walk-on part you did. That is cool. If you made it a point to do the smallest, out of the ordinary thing three times a week, I bet your life would be revolutionized.You're gonna be fine, Bobbo. When you want to be.

OOOHHH, whips!

I am starting to do stuff. I had my 3 days of work, which was fun and I definitely intend to do again! And I also started to learn how to drive today. But what I really need is a job. Something nice and simple so I'll actually go everyday. But I can't think of anything!

I've been absent for a few days, but I was very happy to see this!
Good on you, Bobbo!

Keep walking!

Whoops, I did it again. Failed my exams, did worse than last year too. Ah well...

Wow, sorry about that. I hate to hear this.But don't get stuck fretting over it. It sucks that you didn't pass them, but consider it part of the "process" you're in. What I mean is that it seems you're in a new phase of soul-searching, trying to figure out your life - where you're at and where you want to be - that kind of thing. If that's the case, then your exam results are really just part of that process. They're done and now you can get on with the next thing, whether it's trying the classes again or doing something else.I've made a lot of bad decisions over the past decade and had some considerable failures, but now that I'm in what I consider to be a good place, I can see how it was all part of the process of getting here.Keep moving Bobbo!

Originally Posted By: bobaliciousI've been here nearly 3 years and I haven't changed one bit. I'm still lacking any motivation or direction in my life. I have less of an idea about what I want to do with my life than I did 3 years ago. I don't do anything anymore, honestly. I have been sitting at home for months doing absolutely nothing. I have no job nor any interest in getting a job. I know that I need to get one and that I'll be getting money and everything, but I just have no will to do it.I'm still single, I hate it yet I have done nothing to change it. I repeated my exams this year after fucking them up last year, and I somehow managed to do even less work than before! So I'm pretty sure that college is out of the question, which I suppose is good in some ways since I had applied for some engineering courses simply cause my friends were there.I don't what to do. It took me two years to see a psychiatrist and when I finally did he was amazed at my complete lack of motivation. He said that it was because I don't have any fear of the consequences of doing nothing. Which is true, I have the mentality that altho doing nothing will mean that nothing good happens, it also means that nothing terrible will happen either.I'm starting to think that I can't change. I have been doing karatee for 2 hours a day for the past month and I can safely say that this has made me a lot more motivated in other aspects of my life. Just a small amount of physical and mental disaplin can have a huge effect on your life. Im supprised that just the dicipline of pushing myself to the max for 2 hours a day could change me so much... maybe you just need to get a hobby? Its very easy to loose all motivation if you have nothing you enjoy, and I speak from personal experiance there, just lying in bed all day because there was no point in getting out of bed. Small changes in lifestyle can change things allot. Maybe find somthing that benafits you physicaly or mentaly and just put all you have into it.

I'm probably gonna pop this one thread up and up whenever its need instead of making new ones.

Oh, and I got into college. Three cheers for the plummeting requirements of the Irish educational system!

I love ya bob, you know this. And I hate to say it, but no one can make you want to do something with yourself then you, and since you're... in a somewhat comfortable situation, that might not happen until something devastating happens to change it. I'm glad you got into college darlin', no do something with it.

Well that's probably just because it's run by a bunch of liberals. *jabs thor *Congrats bob!

Bob is single? lol jk

I might, depends on who's asking...

easy job, something some what rewarding...ever consider starting a business?I know a few people who do rather well here that started a painting business, you need to be able to drive, you need a van, and about 300 dollars in equipment, more if you run sprayers you can jack that up to about 1000 dollars (US Currency) I have no idea about cost in ireland.painting is easy, rewarding to see the change and makes good money, if your parents have money to some degree, maybe you cuold work out a loan from them to get you started? it would motivate you ( I hope) to apy them back and force you to stick with it, it would also give you a van to drive, and motivation to learn to drive. maybe a career thats never going to be too hard or too stressful?

Congratulations on getting into college.Success in college is largely a matter of getting into regular habits of hard work and study every week, even though no-one is making you do it. You don't have to be a genius.