Hiya, I'd like some honest opinions. I've met this girl, she's beautiful and really intelligent. Everything you could want really. I like her, she likes me. Thing is, she's not quite 18 and I've just turned 23. Yep.We've talked a whole lot and I know older guys have taken advantage of her in the past and to be honest I think she has "daddy issues" that make older men attractive to her. She has been treated badly and even miscarried her ex's baby. Now for all my many faults, I am not an asshole to girls. This girl is a princess and I would be good to her. But I'd like to know if anyone thinks this relationship would be a bad thing for her. Thanks.
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Age gap
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Were you just in the community forum?
The gap isn't the issue, its that she is under 18\. When she is legal, go for it.
Just keep in mind that IF she has "daddy issues" as you say, there are troubles that come with that. She may very well rebel with YOU in a few years. Be ready for a girl that age to go through a maturing process somewhere around 23 to 25... -
No, erm, I've been a member here for ages but only rarely drop by. We're in the UK, legal here is 16.
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Legal age of consent is 16 but you can still get done for having sex with someone under 18.
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I asked about the community forum, because it has a question there that sort of relates.Bob probably knows better than I how well you may get reamed as I am in the U.S. Good luck man!
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Only if you're in a position of trust. Not that this is really the point!
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Not as I've seen. I think the rule is that its still statutory rape if you are over 18 and s/he is under 18, but when the "victim" is over the age of consent then they usually go a lot softer if charges are made. Unless you're 45 and s/he's 16, of course...
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Point or not, that is the only real issue at THIS moment. The age diff isn't that huge. No one is gonna think ANYTHING of it in a few years. Just be careful of the maturity thing.....
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I was surprised by the idea that sex over the age of consent could still be statutory rape, so I did some searching:
Law in the Republic of Ireland: sex with someone 17 and over is not illegal, under 17 it is illegal, with heavier penalties under 15. Remarkably, girls under 17 get an exemption from the rules, but not guys.
Law in the UK: sex with someone 16 and over is not illegal, under 16 is illegal; lighter penalties if the person doing it is under 18, but no exemptions.
The term "statutory rape" is used in Ireland and the US, but not the UK.
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If you are a good guy, as you claim to be, then I think the relationship would be a positive experience.
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In the UK i beleive its statutory rape if a girl is under 13.
It is possible for a 17 year old and a 15 year old to have a relationship so there is a degree of leeway but it is measured on a case by case basis.
There is no legal reason why you cant see this girl, the age gap is fairly small so i would just give it a crack you never know how it may turn out!
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Thanks for your input guys. I've never heard of any legal difference between a 17 year old and and 18 year old, I think my friend you are incorrect there, although such distinctions do exist in some countries. Anyway, she's just too damn pretty to pass up, so I shall be making further enquiries x