Comedian's show stopped. He used the 'N' word

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Like I said, it's not the right way to act. I think it's enough that you understand why people have the reactions they do. We as the minority race need to be not so quick to jump to our fears of racism, as counterintuitive as that be may for us. You, as the dominate race, need to understand why we don't, or aren't, always able to meet that standard.

All you can do is do your job.

All I can do is give the reason why and try to hold my own preconceived notions and temper in check. For now I think it's enough that we seek to understand one another better. Then grow from there.

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>>>"...try to hold my own preconceived notions and temper in check."

That came off sounding like it was directed at you and it was not. It's at life in general.

Oh I know that sweetie, like I said to you in a PM, I'm just trying to understand things like this. I grew up in a racist town (well I live smack dab in between two small hick towns), and my mother has said many times that if she would have known how bad it was in this area then she would have insisted on staying in Kelberg (sp?) to raise her children. It’s heart breaking to see the way people are treated because of the color of their skin. I can remember as a child riding in a car with my mother and seeing a black man walk down the street and I was afraid for him. I remember thinking to myself 'Run. Turn around and run as fast as you can and don’t look back.' I was terrified for him because I knew how people in that town would react to him and how they would treat him. It broke my heart to realize at such a young age just how cruel people really are and how they can hold so much hatred for someone just because of their skin tone.

I do understand where what you are saying and possibly why some people might have these reactions.My thing is it's my job. I have no control over company policies and people who are regulars know I don't treat anyone with any special privileges. The doctor, who is black, here makes the policies and I enforce them. We even have signs throughout the office that states we do accept checks but with a valid photo ID only, so it's not like I am making it up on the spot. Matter of fact there is a sign right on my desk that states this.It kills me that they want to class me as a racist so quick stating that I am being prejudice against them, yet before they leave my office I get called a “faggot” or “gay ass” or some other BS just because I am enforcing company policy. This is my issue. If people want to say I am “saying ignorant things” than fine, but tell me where I went wrong?

"If people want to say I am "saying ignorant things" than fine, but tell me where I went wrong?"You'll have to take that up with those that said it.Name calling, like you described, is never called for and does nothing but demonstrate week character. As for the rest you'll just have to read what I said to Katie. There is no excuse for such behavior and all we can do is try to understand each other.Your situation reminded me of a problem I always have at Lowe's... just because I'm a hard ass.With regard to enforcing company policy, I go through this every time I go to Lowe's. They want my telephone number and I won't give it to them. Then they want my zip code and I won't give it to them. I know it's there job to try and get these things, and I never resort to getting cross with them, but policy or not they aren't getting it. They get upset and have to call the manager but I don't care they just don't need that shit. Yes I make it into a big problem for them, and the people behind me, and yes it's just their job, and yes they get pissed with me, but I happen not to agree with the policy and will not give that information out. Nobody has turned down my cash yet.My wife hates going to Lowe's with me. Just because it's policy and just because they are doing their jobs doesn't mean I have to agree with it. That's just a broad generalized statement and isn't meant to impugn or defend your offices policies. It's just meant to demonstrate that just because it's a policy doesn't mean I'm going to follow it. I'll make 'em work around me or I'll go elsewhere.I don't know that has any relevance here you just reminded me of it.

LOL, I hate that. Why do they need your phone number? Toys R Us does that too.

lol I know what you are saying.But for us it's more than company policy, the actual check validation machine will not process their check without a picture ID, so our hands are tied. I've actually had people refuse to give me their ID; I said okay I told them that we would be unable to serve them today and to schedule back. We make all patients "pre-pay" before work is completed because we actually went through a bad period where people would run out of the office without paying or stating "Oh, I forgot my money at home" or "forgot my wallet in the car", but never come back and pay.Anyways as I said I understand, but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t drive me crazy lol.

My guess is marketing research.

Quote:Granted it's the wrong reaction to have, but what needs to be remembered is, it doesn't take being treated with suspicion and contempt to many times to build that kind of a reaction into a person. I can tell you exactly what goes through a minorities mind, when asked for more than the norm, and that's, "here we go again". That goes back to wut u were saying in a earlier post…about a abused , molested …kids. When u grow up with so much pain and hurt ….and people doing bad shit to u it’s all u expect. I’m the same way but for a different reason. I wish I hadn’t deleted the post I made yesterday ……… oh well I just reposted it in a very much shorter version. lol Why should I be scared of some one that has been nothing but nice to me? Why?…because the people that were nice to me have turned on me. So why should it be different now.. I understand wut every one on this thread has said. I just don’t understand how some one can say some one else’s experience is a lie. I see how Eddie is upset. It would make me upset for some one to say I am a racist when I’m not. And it has happened………hurt my feelings really bad too. Where I’m going bonkers is.. I know that fear that old folks is talking about (tho it coused by something else that happened to me ) and I feel that hurt that Eddie is talking about cuz people getting mad at him for no reason. Our local vet has a no check policy too unless u have ur drivers license and the denial staion will only take a check if u have id or are local. (like we use the station a lot so they know us) but when we first moved back… it was different. Rules are rules. …..fear is fear too.  Quote:Then they want my zip code and I won't give it to them. I know it's there job to try and get these things, and I never resort to getting cross with them, but policy or not they aren't getting it. They get upset and have to call the manager but I don't care they just don't need that shit. lol that sounded like somethign my dad would say.. he has stopped going to lows cuz of that number thing. home dept asks for ur zip....but not phone number... he goes there now. why the hell do they need ur phone number anyway... now (whee we live) you have to have two phone mnumbers on your checks..... i keep telling my mom she should get a check card like i have but she keeps saying she would forget to write down wut she used. lol