I feel almost, alone

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Originally Posted By: StillSearching>No one can make it their own business unless you let them.Well thats not 100% accurate, ppl can get in way and there nothin u can do about it trust me i've been then, u just have work past it and don't give up.

It is 100% accurate, and I've been there before, too,so I know what I'm talking about.Example: Someone says to you: Why do you wear those shoes? They're ugly.Now you have a choice here.1) You can wear some "cooler" (to them) shoes which then makes it their business, since they are deciding what you wear.2) Or you can say "Because I feel like it" and that makes it none of their business.

Wow, that honestly makes me feel good, thank you.But again, if that trait is going to encourage the girl to say yes, and after also, how can I have it help earlier than later?Oh, and definitely I realize that a girl would not JUST want a companionship, and I can go with that. The physical stuff is fine to do, if you will, but I prefer the 'emotional' half as Inelegible stated.

Sorry - but that was confusing, and off topic

Yea i agree on both points so i deleted it. But the fact is ppl can get in the way like that and there not much u can do about it, but like i said u have 2 work passed it

> Yea i agree on both points so i deleted it

Yeah, I read it before you deleted it and... big WTF @ that wall of text.

You should definetely learn what punctuation is, man. That was a crazy wall-of-text with no punctuation.

Anyway...

> But the fact is ppl can get in the way

Dude, we're not talking about people getting in the way. We're talking about other people making this guy their business, because he cares a lot about what they think of him. So they control him basically. That has nothing to do with people getting in the way, which is I guess what you're saying.

Thanks, you pretty much understand what's going on.

What I realized is that there are some things that I care what people think, and other I don't. Obviously, this part of my life is a place where I think people care. But I also love to do >insert activity hereinsert sport here< and his friends think it shouldn't even be a sport. But George decides to go for it. Hid friends laugh. Eventually, they get accustomed to it, and it's no big deal.

In theory that's what would (should?) happen if this anything were to occur. However, it's not as much (but still some) my friends as it is hers. I'm more concerned that they'll give me all sorts of remarks. Not necessarily bad comments, just ones that make me feel uneasy.

yea im so very sorry about that, removing it was best. As for my typing well i failed badly in englishcin school i have hard time with this. So i apologize in advance for any other post i put up like that.

I'll try harder....sorry again

Not necessarily bad comments, just ones that make me feel uneasy. This is what you need to work on right here. The comments make you feel uneasy, so you try to avoid it even happening, which means they control you now.Try either (1) laughing about it and playing it off or (2) tell them to stop saying whatever it is they're saying. OPtion 1 will obviously look a whole lot cooler, so you'll kill two birds iwth one stone.

I do laugh about it. I just HATE the feeling at all!

The more you practice laughing it off and going your own way, the better it will feel.

While this is probably true, its the things like "ooh! thats so cute!" that just kill me. Laughing those off doesnt work.EDIT: I think I am making this more difficult than it has to be. I still dont get how I can tell a girl I like the emotional side more before I ask her.Meh

I don't think you can tell her you like the emotional side unless you're in a position of having a serious talk. A serious talk could happen anywhere - it could be while doing some schoolwork together - but you have to be alone.

Ok, that makes sense. Thanks!