Orgasm - WTF is wrong with me :\

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Hey guys, this is a really embarassing one.Actually it's so embarrassing i wasn't even gonna put it on here...I met this great guy recently, we went out, had a good night, and then by the end when we were wanking and BJing what have you, i just didn't cum :|It was a massive surprise since i was really worried i might be a bit too excited and cum too fast (I'm a virgin), but i actually couldn't. Bearing in mind it was in a freezing park, at night, do you think this had something to do with it? I just wasn't feeling anything really, so maybe it was the cold... but it wasn't a numb feeling, it just didn't get me off?He was ok about it (was worried he'd think he was crap), and then he said it was because i was nervous and thinking about it too much, apparently that can happen, but i couldn't help but think he was trying to falsely comfort me...Anyoo the day after i was jerking off but that also took me a while, i had to watch porn in order to eventually climax. It's worrying me quite a lot since i feel there is something wrong with me, but also i have exams soon so maybe i'm just a bit stressed?This one has really got me and for once i am lost for words (which trust me never happens :P), so i would really appreciate any input, and maybe any other guys have had similar experiences?Thanks,Jon

Firs time I had sex I didn't cum either. I had to wait till the next morning. For me it was because I was really very drunk, so I don't think you have a lot to worry about.

In a relatively similar problem, I have Glory Days where I just can't seem to hit the mark too. Personally, instead of feeling like there's something 'wrong', I always had the point of view of, "well this'll be fun for her."

Sometimes things happen, but it's not that there's something wrong. At least not in my experience.

Think of it like this, Mother Nature has blessed you with the opportunity to really please your partner without worrying about sputtering out before you want to.

hahaha well mother nature blessed me with a bit of a laugh - cos he had one hell of an achy arm afterwards

"I'm not exactly sure about the definition, but you may not be able to say, "I'm a virgin" anymore. "Yeah, I agree. I don't think you can consider yourself a virgin if you've had oral sex. Some people disagree, but oral sex is still sex. Many gay guys don't like anal sex and never engage in anal sex, yet they have plenty of sex, oral and otherwise - this doesn't mean they're virgins just because they never had anal sex.

ok well whatever the definition, i'm not too bothered about that right now tbh lol

i didnt cum the first time with a dude eitheri did the first time with a chick though

hmm ineteresting... the main thing that's worrying me is that it's taking ages when i wank now aswell, whereas i used to just do it too early all the friggin' time lol

Stress is a vicious cycle. Your worrying that something is wrong, and in doing so, you are making it not work so well, which stresses you more, and so on and so forth....I had to ask a similar Q about my man a while back. Seems to have gotten better though, once we stopped worrying about it.

well if its any consolidation, when i first had sex with my partner, it actually took me 5 hours to cum, i didnt realize how long we were at it, and i thought i came too fast, so i had to keep going, finally after 6 and a half hours of sex, i had to stop because she had to go home, so i faked me cumming the second time... man was i tired after that, and her legs were sore for days from being in that open legged position for so long... it wasnt very enjoyable for me... she had alot of fun tho...i agree with everyone here, you were in a park, and you were prolly nervous and thats why... same thing happened to me when i first had sex in a park... :-\

Lol thanks for all the advice, looks like it was just me worrying after all, we had sex in my bedroom the other day and all was back to normal Thanks again!