Self-Image

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I have issues with the way I look.Does anyone here watch the Tyra Banks show? Last week there was an episode about women with issue and thinking their partner is way better looking than them.I watched this episode and cried.. because this is exactly how I feel. If I had to rate myself out of 10, I would probably give myself a 3. I see nothing good about myself. My boyfriend, on the otherhand is very goodlooking.. i'd probably give him an 8 or a 9. I feel very weird going out with him in public. Im always wondering if he's embaressed of me .. or doesnt wan't to be seen with me. I feel like an ugly blob standing beside him. I know he loves me.. and I always think in the back of my mind that he will go out and find a skinnier, better looking girl. Even though I know it would never happen.. i'm very paranoid. He doesn't have a cell phone, and if i call his house and he's not at home, I get all paranoid and worried.Does anybody else feel like this?

i feel like that =(i detest the way i look. most times when i go in public i feel like everyone is judging me. my bf in my eyes in gorgeous. and i feel like he can get better than me. i feel like anyday now someone better will come along and ill get pushed to the side. ive never liked my looks. im always finding stuff about my body i hate. like stretch marks.. ugh i fucking HATE stretch marks. i have them on my tummy because i gained weight after i lost both my grandparents, and where my complexion is pale, they show up really easily. and i just feel like everyone is looking at me. it really holds me back.

Everytime I pass a mirror, im looking in it because Im so concerned with how I look, and I just want to look okay.My boyfriend thinks im obsessed with myself!

i look in mirrors every chance i can. the only thing i really like about myself is my hair. i hate being so paranoid about how i look. but i cant help it.

I hate my hair. There is nothing I like about myself.

what i hate is clothes shopping.. fuckmy stupid chest and curves drive me nuts! nothing fits right! and if it does its in the wrong color, or theres a freaking hole in it.

the first half... yea. but my girl really is HOt and does look better than me. :grin:

i've always struggled with how i look. i was too skinny and too short, Looked too young. I see things in me that other people don't seem to see. Time fixed all those but i still don't see the ...* thinks-how to word this*.. hotness in me. i guess that's good wording but it fills wried to say.

i might have to come back to finish this... it's getting late and i got to be at the pool at 8 for work in the morning.

I reckon both girls in your avatar are pretty hot, if one of them is you.

Thanks. Im the one on the left. I definetly do NOT feel hot.

That episode you saw, did she (Tyra) had any tips on trying to help your self-esteem? Or have you tried any other means of trying to help yourself?

You need to try to stop looking at the physical part of yourself and focus on the person inside. I'm sure your boyfriend loves you for more reasons than your looks. But if you really want to make a change, why not get a nice haircut? Or shop for a new outfit? Something that will help boost your confidence a bit.

Well I'm telling you now that you are hot, and so are a lot of other people, your boyfriend included.

Stop listening to yourself, you know rationally that your perception of yourself is going to biased. You've been telling yourself that you're ugly for so long you've come to believe it.

Every time you think you think you're ugly force yourself to think of something else, ignore those thoughts, don't dwell on them. Focus on your good attributes, whether their in beauty, talents, or personality. Think about compliments you've received in the past. Hell, think about this post, because I'm telling you you're NOT ugly.

Negative self-talk is dangerous, and will quickly lead to depression.

oh please girlie! you and ashley both are friggin gorgeous. probably the sexiest Canadians ever (yes even moreso then you Mr. U)

Shopping is the thing that ruins my confidence. Its sooo frustrating finding clothes to suit the shape of my body. Tyra didn't have any tips really.. she just gave them makeovers. I just joined weightwatchers and Ive lost about 10lbs.. but it seems since then im more concerned.

I can agree with the ash part.I was just looking at her facebook. Her profile pic is stunning.

You gotta keep your chin up. You are a very pretty girl, and many people love you.

Thanks.

Another problem I have is accepting a compliment.

oh hush youre stunning too! and i dont have facebook but i can already agree that shes stunning AS WELL

I always though both you and Ashley were pretty damned cute.

aww babez! I used to... and still kind of have this problem. I still don't like the way I look. I really... really... really dislike my body. I have OD skin color issues (don't ask it goes way back...). I hate my untamed lion hair that I used to kill with a hot iron every morning. And I despise my freaky looking eyes! Not to mention I have the biggest birthmark on... nevermind. But, day by day I'm just trying to accept myself for the way God made me. I know the media is always pushing in women's faces that if you aren't a size 2 with huge boobs, blonde hair, blue eyes and perfect skin you're butt ugly. But darlin' you are GORGEOUS. I always thought my boyfriend looked "too good" for me. And because of the fact that there are so many other beautiful girls walking around he'd leave me in a hot second. But he gives me the longest lecture in the world for this. He's worse than my mother. And WHY in the world are you watching the Tyra Banks show! Ok, I won't lie... it's a pretty good show. But in most cases it doesn't necessarily leave you feeling good about yourself... like that one episode about stereotyping people according to their names, basing how attractive a girl is by the shape of her body (what guys want?? please..) and whatever other nonsense she's had recently. The world doesn't know what beauty it is... so you can't really go by what they say.

But I see the world, and i'm constantly comparing myself to it.All my friends are better looking than me by ALOT.