Hey guys! I'm Julio (pernounced like Jewelio). This is my first post.I don't want to be like all the other people asking "am I gay?" but I need to just tell this to someone.I am from a somewhat strict brazilian and italian home. I have 3 older brothers and 2 older sisters who are all married or engaged to be married. They are all straight. Now for maybe 2 years or so I've "wondered" into the thought of men. It never happened to me like overnight nor gradually I think honestly its just me. When I see an attractive man I just say he's hot. For a women I look at them with more respect although they're beautiful. I try to tell myself I'm not gay or bi to hurt my family but honestly I look at it and see myself happy with a man. I just don't want to hurt my family nor be disowned or be the butt of jokes.Sorry I just had to get that off my chest.
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Ummmm. Idk!
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I would just tell you do what you want. Your family will still love you no matter what
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You don't have to announce your sexual orientation right away, or at all. You are who you are. And you're not hurting your family being yourself.Lame response I know, but there will be more I'm sure!
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Welcome to A2A, Julio.
People who try to be exactly the way other people want them to be, end up unhappy and pleasing no-one. You will follow your own path. No-one's path is identical, anyway.
There's no need to be in a hurry to tell your family, though I expect at some stage you will want to tell them. How they will react, I don't know. Yes, you could be the butt of jokes; but any person trying to do the right thing is likely to be the butt of jokes at some time or other. The spineless will always resent someone with a backbone.
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Originally Posted By: IneligibleWelcome to A2A, Julio.People who try to be exactly the way other people want them to be, end up unhappy and pleasing no-one. You will follow your own path. No-one's path is identical, anyway.There's no need to be in a hurry to tell your family, though I expect at some stage you will want to tell them. How they will react, I don't know. Yes, you could be the butt of jokes; but any person trying to do the right thing is likely to be the butt of jokes at some time or other. The spineless will always resent someone with a backbone. Well said! I completely agree