FIRST TIME ANAL!

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OK, so me and my bf are considering trying anal sex for the first time. I'm curious and willing to have a go but cos I've never done it before I need some tips I guess. And although I'm willing to try, isn't it slightly unhygenic? Isn't it dirty?If you're a woman and you've done it before, did it hurt much? Did u need to use a lot of lube etc??And if you're a guy... well idk, just what was it like?

hey there. ive had anal sex before. and if its done right, it can be very hot. first off, make sure you're relaxed. and make sure you clean, and ALWAYS use a condom. have lots of WATER based lube nearby as well. don't use vaseline because it weakens the condoms.take it slow. dont rush anything. and make sure you communicate well with your man. if it hurts. TELL him to stop.

thanks for that , and i will be sure to tell him to stop if its hurting. but how am i supposed 2 clean it?? u mean internally?

Very well said; good point and good suggestion! That is what this site is all about...good luck to you and your bf.

yeah thanks everyone, i think im pretty clue up about the pain factor now but im still just worried that its uncleanly- 2 put it frankly, if he gives me anal, wont there just be poo on his penis?? - not his bare penis- the condom obviously.

haha ok thanks. so is that a regular occurance with anal sex then?? i just dont knw what 2 expect. and we are planning to use loads of lube, but even if we do, is there still a chance that the tissue could rip and i might bleed?

ok thank you!

I would reccomend using the doggie style position. first you need to be totally relaxed. Start by laying on your front and have your lover give you a very sensual back massage. Then you might try having vaginal sex in the doggie position. nice and slow, get wet but dont cum. Have him pull out and slid his penis shaft between your butt cheeks. have him slid his between your cheeks to arouse the anal area. You may want some lube for this. finally have him press his penis against your butt hole. Have him apply some pressure, but you push against him more than he's pushing. Go at your own speed. You may not penatrate deep the first time you try anal. You will probably be a little tense. Don't worry if you don't complete anal sex the first time. Try again when your ready and you will at some point succed and you'll love it.

Howdy,My gf and I did this for the first time really rather recently actually, and the one thing that everyone will agree on is you need a whole lot of lube... think you've got enough? at least double the amount you have, and keep it close by, you'll need it, trust me!!Also, for my gf and I, we read up on the internet and we tried doggie first, nomatter what we did, it just wasn't happening that way for us, then we turned at a funny angle... and suffice to say, doggie didn't work well for us, it was painful for her and not good at all, cuz I never ever wanna hurt my gf, but we decided after a short break to give it another go, using the other recommended way, which was heaps better for us both... you just need a few pillows ...If you want to do it this way, lay your gf down in the missionary position and put 2 or 3 pillows under her bum, to get everything in a comfortable position, lube yourself and your gf, and keep the lube close by, and slide in with you kneeling up in front of your gf, and make sure you go exactly to her pace... it took us maybe 5 - 10 mins to get me all the way inside her, and then another 5 mins or so of very slow thrusting before it was totally comfortable for her, so be patient, especially if you're above average in size, because for anal, even average is large!!Trust me though... you can always tell when someone either hasn't had anal sex, or is really afraid of it... go at her pace, and it will be good, go at your pace, and you will never get another chance with this girl, and put her off for life probably!!!It's totally different to vaginal sex, and not for everyday, but it is goooooooood for both of you, if you go slow and easy at first Enjoy yourself and stay safe

I just wanted to add to previous posts with my own experience.

Like previously said: lots and lots of lube
And It hurts the first time. Alot. I had to ask my partner to stop so I could have a good long cry before giving it another go.
I had the same concerns about it being "dirty" but it's really not. There was no sign of poo what so ever and it didn't feel dirty.
After I got used to it, and that does take a while, it felt really good. Very very good.

Anyway, It's the kinda sex that takes alot of trust in my opinion. Enjoy.

lots of lube and for me we did a few times with just a finger. the next couple with a toy. We just slowly worked up to it, not like all in one night or anything it took a couple weeks to get where i could do it

i suggest having vaginal sex for a bit before, get everything all wet and slippery, usually you can just use that "wetness" as your lube and doggie is probably the easiest to do and controlmainly just go slow, trust your partner and most importantly HAVE FUN!!

I am a male and have anal sex with my boyfriend sometimes. My experiences with it have been painful, the first time being the most painful. I find that it is always painful for a while, but the pain goes away after a while. Also, it is most pleasurable when I lay on my stomach, but this could be different for you. We discovered that we were not using enough lube because there was bleeding the first couple of times. As for cleaning, just clean the out region with soap and water, you can't really help what goes on inside, but you should definitely clear anything out before hand (use the bathroom).

Also, you may not even be able to take his penis the first time. I would suggest using fingers with lube first. It might help if you have him stimulate you orally while doing this.

good luck