Another lonely school year....

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i know im being dramatic here but bare with me

my high school senior year started today... and, as usual, i end up sitting in the corner of my classes without saying a word, it usually takes me a few weeks to actually get friendly with people (even people i already know). i don't even know how it happened but all of a sudden my "friends" aren't even my friends anymore, they pretty much found new people to be around. already i feel like i'm a new student to the school and it's really hard for me to make new friends at school (at work it's fine, but i don't hang out with them (they're in college)).

a few weeks ago, i was hanging out with, really my only friend, and i planned that we should see the Dark Knight (i figured i should do something that'll get me out of the house) and he seemed hesitant to respond and simply passed me by the hallway without eye contact...burn...

i don't really see myself as annoying, i don't really bother/talk to anyone unless they want to, which would probably make me a boring person (my co-workers beg to differ though...)

i'm getting really tired of just sitting at home, listening to music, pacing back and forth, playing video games, etc... i wanna leave the house and hang out with friends, even if it's just watching tv...

anyone else been in a similar situation?

Well my situation might be different cause since i went back to school i chose to be by myself.I don`t socialize and i have no friends.What you could do is befriend the new ones(if there is any) or speak to your friends and tell them how you feel.

A lot of the time, although you may be a good person, shyness and introversion can turn people away from you. Your friends may seek other people if it takes too much effort to be friends with you.What I'm saying is, you can't have friends when you want them, friendship is a two way street. Expecting your friends to stay your friends also requires you to make an effort to be out in the open.if you start class in the corner, not talking to anyone, then people aren't going to want to be your friend. If you talk with people, have conversations, meet people, and generally are open, then people will gravitate toward you. Otherwise, they will leave for people who do these things.When I was in high school, I changed schools, and I was exactly like you in about 10th grade. however, in 12th grade I joined some clubs, took speaking classes, and generally tried to become a more outspoken person. It's not hard to make and keep friends if you try to stay in the open, but if you are very personal, and stay to yourself unless you are bored or feel the need to socialize, then people will find others who better serve their friendship.Although it may sound rough for me to say it, but I think the problem is in how you're dealing with this. Instead of beating yourself up over why people don't want to be with you, why not make yourself available (and by available, I mean you have to be trying to talk to people on a regular basis, none of this once a day, please hang out with me bull), why not talk to people. If it's your senior year, you'll be leaving for college or work soon anyway, so what do you have to lose? A reputation in a school you'll never be again?Branch out. Don't sit in the corner. Talk too much, if nothing else. It's better to have people know you and dislike you, than not to let them know you at all.

thanks, i'll try.one this is that i never what to start a conversation with.. and end up stammering a stuttering my words trying to think of something

It's not as hard as you think.People on the track team?Ask what events they're in.People on the debate team?Ask what this month's resolution is.someone get a hair cut?compliment them (or not)don't try so hard.Mindless conversation is still conversation.

I got some questions. Over the summer did you call your friends, and ask them to hang out or come over or even just talk a while on the phone? If so, was it all or just some and how did they respond? If you don't try you can't succeed and if you do try the only thing you have to lose is them saying maybe another time, or I'm busy. If you are trying and they won't try back then they are really not as good a friend as you might have thought, and vice versa. If you try to hang out and either they blatantly deny you or just keep on saying maybe another time then find a new friend. Hope my advice helps and be more social like Rain said!! :grin:

i did call them over the summer, most were out of town.

Wow, I am in the exact same situation right now.

I'm just a little bit younger, going into my sophomore year. I haven't really come across any solutions, except for the thought of me just pushing through the next few years, thinking I'll never see any of these people again.

College might be a fresh start and you've only got one more year to go. Buy xbox live and start playing with people, sure you gotta get outside once in a while, but I'd use that other time to focus on working out in the gym and running outside. You can meet a lot of people at the gym too and eventually become friends and hang out outside of the gym. Soon enough the year will be over.

This is pretty much what I've been doing, I mean I've hung out occasionally with people. But I'll actually admit, I don't really have that many friends.

I barely get calls, I do most of the texting and calling to people. I try to make plans with everyone I can, but 95% of the time they fall through.

I try not to really worry about it, because once I focus on it I become really really depressed and sometimes even suicidal.

Originally Posted By: OneOh1it usually takes me a few weeks to actually get friendly with people I was sort of like that when I started college. I guess I eventually got bored with spending time by myself between classes.

I'm somewhat like you. Although, I try to be really careful with my friendships because for some reason I always feel like I might screw something up with saying the wrong thing. So basically, I feel like I control myself with whatever happens in my friendships... which I don't know if that's a right thing or a bad thing.. to be honest..

i wanna thank you guys... i had no idea that your advice would actually work.everyone sees me different and love me for that.i love you guys!!! yall the shit!

That's great news!