my ex (cause i moved) i know is ADHD and has off and on mild synisatia (where sense gets mixed up). Im 95% sure she is manic-depressive/bipolar (my best friend for years is too). she has trouble with insomnia and dreams. she dreams in messed up colors or black and white with colors highlighting the fucked up parts. she is paranoid. i was iming her earlier and she puked because there was "TOO MUCH FUCKING NOISE IN MY (as in her) ROOM". it was midnight and all that she could here was her lamp and clock.we dated for 3.5 months and she loved me and i didnt love her which she knew and was ok with. i have not seen her in 2 months and she still loves me and i still care about her but have moved on. she doesnt want to have sex with anyone again except me. she found out that i drunken hooked up (as in 2nd base just hands) last week, and called me up crying and cut herself and tried to guilt trip me.i told her today that someone kept hinting they wanted to me to ask them out and i played stupid for a couple days and decided to ask he out and be polite then say i wasnt ready to date, went to do that and she had a fat cold sore so i was too grossed out too. this sparked the todays depression and there is to much noise.she has said that sex with anyone but me no longer appeals to her and she probably wont have sex until i come visit in a year. and she was a NYMPH.i still care about her, but i think she has mental/emotional problems how do i help her out? is staying friendly prolonging her obsession with me?
My ex truly is crazy. getting her help?
with as many things as she has going on in her life, there are alot of things you need to account for. i have PTSD, and it flares up whenever im alone, or with some old friends. but i have the least of my attacks when im with a loved one, girlfriend or extremely close friend/family member.i occasionally use them as clutches so that i dont have to suffer another attack, which some of them understand and dont mind. but some get frustrated with me about it.to her, you may be her crutches, offer her friendship, see her, talk to her, etc. if your up to it.as far as the sex thing, i dont care what anyone says. sex is best with the love of your life. i'd say ask anyone who is married and has been for a long time, most will say that is true/accurate.a few of my exes are nymphos, and just 3 months ago or so, they would consistently call me up for cock calls (male booty calls)but to me that was irrelevant, sex isnt the most important thing in any relationship, but it does play a part. if you dont care about her enough to know that by having sex with her, your only playing with her emotions, then your either too stupid, or too cold hearted, and i'd suggest dropping her altogether for her sake.as for the cutting and her disabilities/sicknesses, i sincerely suggest her going to a doctor to get diagnosed and treated. her condition will probably worsen over time.
im like 7000 miles away i cant have sex with.