Okay, once again.. I am here with a boyfriend problem.I have a new boyfriend, we've been going out for 2+ months now. I feel like we're going no where. Nothing is happening between us, he apparently really really really 'likes me', he wont ever say "I love you" so I refuse to, which is lessening my feelings for him.We never do anything . We never hangout. sure, we see each other at school, very rarely out of school. I KNOW we could hangout more often, but he always thinks it just has to be him and I. Meanwhile, we pretty much have the same friends. He chooses to go hangout with them, leaving me at home, then apologizes for never seeing me? Which makes no sense to me at all.Im 18, he just turned 17. I feel like we're going nowhere, yet.. I'd feel horrible If I broke up with him, because he constantly says how much he loves everything about me and such.but, I dont know. I guess I want to know if Im doing the right thing by continuing to be his girlfriend, or If Im being a complete goof, and should end it now?edit: Also, whenever we're alone together, just the two of us, hes really distant. But when we're with our friends, hes more touchy. I dont know what this has to do with anything, it could be important.. not too sure though.And-I feel horrible for feeling like this- but about a month into us going out, I constantly joke with my friend, about looking for a new boyfriend, and I check out other guys. I actually like someone else, but I know it will literally Never happen. I still feel bad for doing that though. Fully knowing I have a boyfriend, yet acting like Im single... Since thats what I pretty much feel like. we've talked about the whole issue of us being distant, he promised he would hangout with me more, bring me along to hangout with his friends(who I get along with, I love them all to pieces, his best friends sister is dating my brother..kinda odd ohh well) And yet.. no matter how much we talk about it, I still feel like Im alone. All I want is more attention from him, he knows this. but nothing is being done about it.Believe me, I've tried calling him to hangout and such, but he is never at home. I have put an effort into it.. its just, hes not doing anything back..... pshttt, and he says hes crazy about me.
Boy ohh boy
It seems to me that what you want out of the relationship, and what he wants, are different. Unless you can find a reasonable compromise, things don't look promising.
I can only agree with previous statements... seems to me, you both need to have a sit down and a frank talk about things, and if you still feel like this at the end of the talk, then I think you're better off finding someone who will pay you the attention you want, I'm sorry to say that, but sometimes, you need the wakeup call to either change things or move on... eventually, it'll come to that regardless of what you do if you feel this way, so, maybe it's best to get it out in the open right now, and move on if that's what you need to do at the end of the coversation.
thats another problem
we've already talked about all that.. 3 or 4 times now.
All he does is apologize, say he'll be with me more, and thats that. And Im stupid enough to believe it.
He is a great guy and all.. but, I dont understand when he says that stuff, then doesnt actually go through with it?
He says hes crazy about me, then he continues to ignore me.
Are most guys like this, or am I just special enough to get the one who loves contradicting himself?
I've been through this with most girls I've gone out with. The simple answer is you just have to let go now because this is the sorta thing that will eat away at you.Don't just throw it away - have a talk about it first. If he reels off the same lines he usually does then you should consider ending it. Saying he's crazy about you is nothing without the commitment to back it up. If you were crazy about pasta you'd eat it all the time, right? It makes no sense that he barely wants to see you.I say do it sooner rather than later too, because in my experience I start to doubt myself and whether anyone actually thinks it's worth seeing me...and self-depreciation is a horrible thing.
"It's easier to leave than to be left behind"