Hey im 18 and have just started goin out with this girl. We have tried to have sex but i always go half limp once we start having sex. I had this problem with my last girlfriend and really want to know whats wrong. The weird thing is is that i can masturbate just fine with no problems getting hard. But i have noticed my lebido has dropped massivley. Like i can go with out masturbating and it dosnt bother me like it used to.Thanks for the help.
I have the same problem.
Mine happens for 2 reasons:
1. The first time I tried to have sex with a girl went really wrong. I was under WAY too much pressure and as such was mentally unprepared to get an erection. This led to some serious blueballs. This caused me some psychological difficulties but I am pleased to say that recently things have been getting much better and while I may not yet be ready for intercourse just yet, I am able to maintain my erection whilst a girl plays with my penis much better than I ever have been able to before.
Try and get more comfortable with this girl.
2. I masturbate too much. My cock is so used to the feel of my hand on it that when someone else touches it, it feels strange and Mr Winky gets confused. Again, this will go in time, but you need to try and help it along by cutting down on your happy lamp polishing.
This should fool your cock into just being glad that someone is touching it and should hopefully get a response.
Or you could get a fleshlight or something to train yourself with.
Welcome to A2A, Jasper. I agree with sadbuttrue. Most likely your libido has dropped because of anxiety. If you can relax and let things take their course it will come back.
Can anybody think of a way i can reduce the anxiety? Because obviously everytime i try i am going to be thinking i hope it works this time and stressing. Which is what then makes me fail.
I have a similar problem. With my last girlfriend, things were great for the first few weeks of sexual interaction, but after a while, I couldn't seem to keep it hard. Things didn't fix themselves, so we talked it out, and after that I was in top shape everytime things heated up. Have you ever done anything sexual with this girl that WASN'T sex, or is there no middleman for you two? Maybe getting to know her body will help you. And also, if you start 'workin' on her a little, it'll earn you some brownie points lol. Those can go a LOOONG way!