And she's only 15. She's already gone through her bawling and tears but she's decided to have the baby and not abort it even though the guy who took advantage of her wanted her to. It's been difficult but my other best friend and I have finally gotten her to the point that she can be excited about the coming of her baby. Our only problem is that people who had shown themselves to be great friends are now turning their backs on her and looking down at her like "ugh how could you". Evidently because she's a Christian she's not allowed to make mistakes It's really angering me the way these hypocrites are acting. Her making a mistake doesn't make her any less of a person but... she's starting to get scared again and I honestly don't know what to tell her to encourage her. She wants baby tips and the TO KNOW on how mothers handle their children.. So I guess I need a mother and/or father's input.
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My best friend is pregnant
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Have her get some baby books, heard those work pretty well.
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There's no simple way with children. They take up a lot of time and have to come first in your life, which they effectively take over completely. But good on her for having the baby, and I fart in the direction of all those who turn their backs on her.How supportive are her parents? They can help with looking after the baby if they are prepared to do so. Nevertheless, she would be best to drop her schooling down to part time.In the first six weeks the baby is always demanding and doesn't even acknowledge you, and you wonder where all the supposed bonding is; but after that they start smiling at you.
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thanks so much that helps alot. I'm going to suggest some of these things to her.Her mom knows and supports her but her dad doesn't know.. she's afraid to tell him. But I'm sure her mom would be able to help but her mom is pretty disappointed and said she won't be helping much unless completely necessary.
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Her dad is going to have to find out some time. I hope her mother's attitude improves eventually, too.If she gets no help she may need to drop all school for a semester. Babies are exhausting!
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Weird. My best friend just found out she was pregnant too.
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Her mum might change her tune and become more supportive once her due date draws nearer and become excited about being a gradparent.There's lot's to cheer her up, baby books is a good suggestion, talking about weather it's going to be a boy or girl, thinking up baby names with her, looking at baby clothes etc.It may not be ideal, and it will be hard but she's made the choice so now its about being happy with that choice and making the most out of this twist in the road.I wish her the best of luck