I see what you're trying to say JIV3. But I just have a a hard time understanding where he's coming from. I have never had the urge to mutually masturbate with one of my guy friends. I've done it w/girlfriends and this was done because it turned me on. And I only would engage in acts that would turn me on which only involves girls. Which would then lead me to believe that he is attracted to guys and/or guys masturbating. The thought of engaging in a sexual act of any kind with another guy is actually quite disturbing to me. It may not be for that guy and thats fine. Thats why I can't understand where he's coming from. It may be that he enjoys masturbating in front of other guys and thats fine if thats what he did/does/wants to do, but thats not straight behavior. I could even understand if he got curious, tried it once and said you know what thats not for me. But to continually mutually masturbate in front of your friends would indicate to me that that person was sexually stimulated by persons of the same gender. One person said that being gay isnt just about having sex and that its a lifestyle. Thats fine. Then what would you call that behavior? I don't know. I have never engaged in a circle jerk or jerking off to one of my friends while they watched. In my book thats gay or bi. Which I have no problem with. I just don't see how you can call yourself straight after mutually masturbating in front of people of the same gender. If in fact that guy was talking about he masturbated in front of a girlfriend or even a girl that is his friend then I can understand that. Thats straight behavior and I could then understand him justifying his behavior as straight.Im not trying to attack anyone and I don't care what you do in your own place, but I am just trying to understand your point of view.
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Uh oh, Is it normal for a guy to.....
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I don't mind answering but doubt if you'll understand. We were simply "getting off"...there was no attraction, nothing emotional at all. We were horny teens who didn't mind some experimentation from time to time. It wasn't a daily thing for sure, just something that started at a sleepover with a dare. We enjoyed it because it was different and quite interesting to have someone else masturbate you and it wasn't any big deal to do it with someone else in the room. I know that all guys wouldn't nor are they interested. It happened, doesn't happen anymore and I'm not ashamed or embarassed by it at all. Sure, like I said it isn't "straight" behavior and at the time one would say "bi" or something but it didn't continue as we "grew" up and each moved on. No biggie, just part of our sexual development.
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Lance-I appreciate you being honest and talking. To me, that goes beyond just "getting off" and I believe you when you say there was no emotional attraction. But wouldn't it be fair to say that you enjoyed thier company and were sexually stimulated by the thought of masturbating in front of them and having them get you off? But we essentially agree on that point if I read your previous post correctly. You were right, its just something I won't be able to understand. And I hope you don't consider me as attacking you, because thats not my intention.
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I don't feel attacked at all. Yes, I'd say there was a certain enjoyment to it, even an excitement. However, it wasn't something that we planned or looked forward to, if it happened at a sleep over or some porn or sex talk..it did and wasn't a big deal (really isn't! LOL) No offense taken, it was acceptable to us and we were OK with it then....and I have no regrets. I don't expect you to understand or agree...we're all different.
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wow great responses !!
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In reply to: if your a guy engaging in a circle jerk or "Masturbation games" with another guy its safe to consider yourself gay. GOD!!!Not at all....if you are watching porn of a girl...i mean its not like you are looking at the other guy and masturbating...there should be no problem with a group of friends getting together and jacking off...as long as its not thinking of a guy, your not considered gay...you are completely wrong...
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Sounds normal to me. But I don't think it makes you feel better when a weirdo says that. lol
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"GOD!!!Not at all....if you are watching porn of a girl...i mean its not like you are looking at the other guy and masturbating...there should be no problem with a group of friends getting together and jacking off...as long as its not thinking of a guy, your not considered gay...you are completely wrong... "
What difference does it make if you are jerking off with a bunch of guys to a girly mag or str8 porn. You are masturbating with or in some cases jerking off the other person. This would lead me to believe that by engaging in these activities with another person whether it be with another female or male that you get sexually excited by the fact that they are masturbating w/or jacking you off. Why get a group of guys together and masturbate if it didn't sexually excite you? I don't know about you, but when it comes to sex/masturbating, etc. I tend to do things that arouse me. Jerking off with guys doesn't arouse me therefore I don't participate. Masturbating is generally a solitary activity unless you are really co-dependent and need somebody in the room with you while you masturbate. =P