It's been a long time since I've had to talk to a girl that I had intentions of asking out due to just getting out of a three year long relationship a while ago.New semester started 2 weeks ago, I got a biology class and I noticed this girl, whom has amazing eyes and hair. We had to have a project together one day, but we were both fairly quiet, but since then I'm the only person she seems to say more than one word too unless she has too.Well, she sits next to me now, in the back of the room and I want to start talking to her more. But I have no idea how to bring up a conversation. I have things in mind to talk about. But absolutely no idea how to bring it up.I don't want to just randomly burst into talking to her. So, any ideas?
How to start up a Coversation?
Start randomly talking to her. Just talk about the project your doing, or recent school news, etc. It's hard, I know, emotions can be mean like that , but just do it. It's better than not, and wishing you had later.
Obviously uou have to make the first move. You need a trigger. It could be something as small as you dropping your pencil on the floor or big like a fire alarm going off or an experiment blowing up :P. Anyway if you make a fool of yourself you'll both laugh and laughings the best medicine in the world so just give it a try :). Better sooner rather than later.Da Hawk
how?Just do it.I saw my wife walking down the road, I pulled over and started talking to her. It was that easy. Had I not taken the time and effort to talk to some girl that I had never met, who was walking down the street, Id not be with her now.Its easy, I pulled over and said Hi, its a good first word to start it all up.
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I really didn't even read over this, I'm bored and posting shit that looks relevant.