How can I tell what I feel for him? Whether it's just lust, if I can ever love him, or if it's just a crush, that's due to natural body processes?...Man, it can be a bitch to sort these things out sometimes....and it's been wearing on me for quite some time now....So it's a question, and just to say it, I guess. Just to get it out is better...
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Emotions suck sometimes...
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Yeah, I know. It kind of does, but sometimes it doesn't. And yeah, I know that you need to be with someone more than just seeing them to love them, but it's almost like I know him enough already, it feels that way, anyway. It's odd.
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Originally Posted By: LuvMyCatsHow can I tell what I feel for him? Whether it's just lust, if I can ever love him, or if it's just a crush, that's due to natural body processes?...Does it matter?Personally I think love is something achieved through time and sacrifice but that's just me. As fas as the rest is concerned is it really necessary to label what you feel. Why not just feel it and go with it. Spend more time on pursuit and less time on analysis. Just don't completely disregard one for the other. Be mindful of your feelings but not so much as to sacrifice the moment.
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Yeah, I guess. I figured that it wasn't love so much, but you know...I've pretty much decided for myself, now, so...But that doesn't make emotions suck any less! Well, the un-sure ones, anyway.
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Quote:Personally I think love is something achieved through time and sacrifice but that's just me.I agree with you, Scotty. I don't think it matters so much what motive power starts the car, it's what keeps it going that matters. Feelings will fade.
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Yeah, I like your philosophy there, Scotty. I gotta keep reminding myself of that, seeing as you had helped with it before. Just because I don't know the lotto numbers, doesn't mean I wouldn't take them if someone gave them to me, right? Thanks.
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YOU SAID: Just because I don't know the lotto numbers, doesn't mean I wouldn't take them if someone gave them to me, right? :)Thanks.-----Perhaps, but what's to say you have to take them from someone just because they are giving them away?
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Well, would you pass up the chance for $1,000,000, just because you couldn't take them because they were given away?I'm just saying, I need to learn that I don't need to classify it, it makes me happy, and I should just go with it.
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YOU SAID: Well, would you pass up the chance for $1,000,000, just because you couldn't take them because they were given away?
I'm just saying, I need to learn that I don't need to classify it, it makes me happy, and I should just go with it.
Happy is a state of mind, too. Sometimes, that which makes you happy in one moment, isn't necessarily the ~right~ thing for you. It could make you unhappy in the next moment. You had said you were in ~lust~. Lust is not forever. Lust wanes, and diminishes with time, just like happiness. Love does not. ~just going with it~ sometimes needs to be thought out as well.
See the movie, "Indecent Proposal" about the 1,000,000. The movie explains your concept well.
All I'm saying is, learn what drives you. Listen to that, and you will learn, that's all.
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"All I'm saying is, learn what drives you. Listen to that, and you will learn, that's all."Introspection is great and more people should practice it but to much introspection can be a distraction from the life going on around you. Sometimes just rolling with it can be as rewarding as anything.
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Originally Posted By: MiaMiaHappy is a state of mind, too. Sometimes, that which makes you happy in one moment, isn't necessarily the ~right~ thing for you. It could make you unhappy in the next moment. You had said you were in ~lust~. Lust is not forever. Lust wanes, and diminishes with time, just like happiness. Love does not. ~just going with it~ sometimes needs to be thought out as well. I agree with Scotty. No, I know it might not be the right thing for me, but I like him. Besides, I'm not planning on pursuing this, A)He's got a girlfriend, (who is as pretty as a gorilla, I swear ), and B) he doesn't roll that way. And for now, that feeling that I have for him makes me happy, and now, I don't really feel the need to call it anything, I'll just let it happen, and that's as far as I'll let it go.
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YOU SAID: Introspection is great and more people should practice it but to much introspection can be a distraction from the life going on around you.
True, I agree. But, introspection doesn't necessarily have to be ~analyzed~ or a ~distraction~. It can be done in as simple as in one minute.
YOU SAID:Sometimes just rolling with it can be as rewarding as anything.
Again,true, I agree. But, rolling with it can only be as rewarding as being able to ~trust~ your feelings. And, the only way to trust your feelings is to ~know~ what you feel. And to know what you feel is to be introspective and listen. The more you listen, the better you become to knowing your feelings. And then you will no longer ~need~ the introspection, it will just come automatically, like breathing. Because then, your feelings will just happen, as you are describing by ~just rolling with it~, you see?
That way, when a new situation or new experiences does/do arise, you will be that much more ~aware~ of what you truly feel. And the best thing to ~know~ this, by ~introspecting~ is to know whether you want to continue to roll with it, or to discard it and move on. Just because a new experience or situation or person, comes into your life does not necessarily mean you have to experience it/them. You CAN discard it too. That's the beauty.. you are in control of it not the other way around, you see?
And that my friends, are ~very~ rewarding feelings! rroowwrr! (tiger growl)
Cheers,
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Oh man, let me tell you. I listen my ass off. (haha, will and grace) I listened so much, that it did get in the way, I was doubting myself so much that it got in the way of my happiness. I still listen, but not as much, if I'm not really planning on pursuing it. If I really liked him, and I knew it could go somewhere, then I'd consider it a bit more.
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YOU SAID:I listened so much, that it did get in the way, I was doubting myself so much that it got in the way of my happiness. -----What are you doubting? Yourself? Your sexuality? YOU SAID: I still listen, but not as much, if I'm not really planning on pursuing it.----What is your sexuality, do you know? Have you "come out"? Do your friends and family know? Just wondering...or call it nosey roflmao Which ever you prefer! Cheers....Mia mia!
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Well, it wasn't doubting so much as just delving too deep into it.And yeah, I know who I am, like i said, I don't plan on pursuing it, anytime soon, I'm content with who I am.Also, sorry if that last post came off as "RAWR!!! IMMA KILL YOUZ!!!" I didn't mean it that way.
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YOU SAID: Also, sorry if that last post came off as "RAWR!!! IMMA KILL YOUZ!!!" I didn't mean it that way.----Awww, no harm done, I don't get hurt feelings too easily. And the rroowwrr, I meant that! Love that growl! Cheers, MiaMia
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Originally Posted By: MiaMia
YOU SAID: Introspection is great and more people should practice it but to much introspection can be a distraction from the life going on around you.
True, I agree. But, introspection doesn't necessarily have to be ~analyzed~ or a ~distraction~. It can be done in as simple as in one minute.
YOU SAID:Sometimes just rolling with it can be as rewarding as anything.
Again,true, I agree. But, rolling with it can only be as rewarding as being able to ~trust~ your feelings. And, the only way to trust your feelings is to ~know~ what you feel. And to know what you feel is to be introspective and listen. The more you listen, the better you become to knowing your feelings. And then you will no longer ~need~ the introspection, it will just come automatically, like breathing. Because then, your feelings will just happen, as you are describing by ~just rolling with it~, you see?
That way, when a new situation or new experiences does/do arise, you will be that much more ~aware~ of what you truly feel. And the best thing to ~know~ this, by ~introspecting~ is to know whether you want to continue to roll with it, or to discard it and move on. Just because a new experience or situation or person, comes into your life does not necessarily mean you have to experience it/them. You CAN discard it too. That's the beauty.. you are in control of it not the other way around, you see?
And that my friends, are ~very~ rewarding feelings! rroowwrr! (tiger growl)
Cheers,
MiaMia!This isn't meant as anything personal but fuck it. None of it really matters in the end anyway. Women stay with men who beat the shit out of 'em and control 'em. Men stay with women who use 'em and treat their kids, by the first wife, like shit. Somehow all that reason, introspections and those good thought exercises lead to nothing.
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Maybe I should just go hide in a dark corner today...
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Quote:Maybe I should just go hide in a dark corner today... I’ve tried that. It only gets worse.
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This is true.Smile, it helps.