Why is she ignoring me?

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I met this girl last weekend when I was visiting a friend who goes to school about 200 miles away. We hooked up and really had a good time together as well, she had said she really liked me and that I made her feel really special, I was still in town a few days later and she wanted to hang out again and she let me buy her dinner and drinks later on. I had to leave the next day but we had made plans for me to go back this weekend. She told me she wanted me to text her and she'd be upset if I didn't by Tuesday. So I texted her Monday and she never sent anything back. Today I tried again and still nothing, I have a feeling she won't text back at all. Why would she say those things to me if she were just going to ignore me later on? She let me hook up with her, she even basically initiated it and then she hooked up with me again when she wasn't drunk and I know she enjoyed the sex. I don't know what to do because the weekend is coming up and I haven't heard anything back. Why would she just all of the sudden become uninterested and wouldn't she be mature enough to let me know rather than making me waste my time? Should I text her again? What should I say?I'm thinking of abandoning my trip altogether because I was really just going down there hoping to see her again but now I'm just depressed.

How about calling rather than texting?

lol... that makes too much sense >_<

Well she told me to text I guess. I don't want to seem too desperate so I'm not going to try and contact her anymore today but I was supposed to go back and see her this weekend, the last time I saw her she seemed excited why would she suddenly blow me off?Should I call her tomorrow or Friday to find out if it's even worth my time still going?I also have a feeling that maybe one of her friends said something to her to make her change her mind.

I'd call her, and if she gets persued that easily by a friend, then she's kind of childish, and can't think for herself, which means : her loss.

I called and just went to her voicemail but I left a message. I don't fucking get it. She was all over me this weekend, tells me she wants to see me again tells me she wants me to call her and then fucking ignoresfuck my life, this is why i have a handful of klonopins to make the sad go away

Honestly she doesn't sound worth it. Anyone thats going to put you through that is not worth the time stressing. Chalk it up to an experience learned and move on buddy

But I cant just let it go. I've only had sex with 5 women in my 23 years and only 2 of those were more than one time. They'll be another fucking pope by the time I meet another girl and hook up.She was so into me and then ignores me after telling me she wants to hear from me. Shes 21 doesnt anyone think she'd be mature enough to give me a fucking explanation, don't I deserve one? I'm worried that if I just forget about her I'd be making a mistake since there could be other reasons. What kind of bitch can't even have enough guts to fucking tell someone the god damn truth

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What kind of bitch can't even have enough guts to fucking tell someone the god damn truth

Someone who doesn't deserve you worrying about them.

I know many... yes many.. immature people who are 21, hell I know people my age who are freakin immature like you have described. At least you know what kind of person she is now, this way you don't waste anymore of your time.

I know what you mean but some part of me feels like there should be an alternate explanation to this. She really liked me, probably more than I even liked her at the time. She looked forward to seeing me again I thought and the last thing she said to me was that I could text her anytime and that I better send her a text by Tuesday. I'm wondering if I should just go down there anyways to see my friends and maybe I'll find out more? Now I don't want to appear like a stalker but I think just keep contacting her until she tells me to fuck off.

I've been with girls before who I hooked up with and later they didn't answer my call and usually I could sense something during the time I was with them. They would seem regretful or distant and I kinda half-expected it. This girl though was different and that's what I cannot understand. She absolutely wanted me and she was constantly touching and kissing me whenever we were next to one another.

Now I'm going over every second I spent with her trying to figure out if I did anything wrong or if she had an unusual response to something I said.

It's also possible she lost her phone or something too, I mean could there be other possibilities or I am just over thinking it.

It's not that easy to just tell me to forget about her and find another girl. I rarely meet a girl who actually likes me and I connect with and that's why I'm just so obsessive over the issue.

Quote:It's also possible she lost her phone or something too, I mean could there be other possibilities or I am just over thinking it.I don't think you are over-thinking it - that sort of thing is possible.

so should I keep calling? how often? should i sent a text that sounds a little pissed off?

it isn't stalking until she tells me to stop right?

if she were to just tell me she isn't interested I'd leave her alone but I can't tell if this is a hint or a genuine miscommunication.

Id stop trying to contact her and let her make the next move.You've done all you can do up to this point.

I think it would be reasonable to try to see her in person, once. It's probably not worth texting or phoning any more.

What Pete said, screw texting or calling her. See her in person somewhere, somehow. That should answer all your questions real quick.

This could completely backfire.She could be avoiding you for a reason.. and you going up there may freak her out ALOT.

She did call me back and we had a good conversation for 15 minutes or so. I might not be able to see her this wknd because my friend might not have a spare room but at least that's a relief.

so all is well then??

yeah looks like all is good