Gay-sounding voice

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I'm really self-conscious about my voice. I am a 23 year old man and I think I sound like a whiny girl when I talk. No matter what I try I can't change it. The other day I was on x-box live and some kid said I sounded like I had "5 dicks up my ass" another time I had to call my cable company and the lady addressed me as "ma'am."I am concerned that people think of me as a homosexual as soon as they hear my voice. I think it puts women off to. I tried to gouge the back of my throat to make my voice deeper but all it did was make me spit about a couple tablespoons of blood and I had a sore throat for daysI'm thinking of moving somewhere else and learning sign language and just pretending to be a mute.Is there anything I can do? Surgeries, therapy, etc? Please I am near suicidal over this

Quote: I tried to gouge the back of my throat to make my voice deeper but all it did was make me spit about a couple tablespoons of blood and I had a sore throat for daysPLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!! Never do that again! That's extremely dangerous and going to do absolutely nothing to change your voice.Sadly there is not much you can do to change your voice, its just part of who you are and at some point you are going to have to accept that. You are only 23, so there is a chance your voice still might deepend.I had a higher voice in my earlier 20's, I'll be 29 soon and my voice has deepend quite a bit.Just ignore all the childish people out there saying stupid things, most likely the person on x-box was some 14 year old punk anyways

I feel so helpless over it. People already assume things about me as soon as I speak. How am I ever supposed to charm a woman?I am certain there has to be some kind of surgery that can be done. What about if I start smoking a pack of Marlboro Reds everyday, would that help at all?I felt humiliated and ashamed when the lady on the phone called me 'ma'am." When I gouged my throat I kinda did it in a fit of rage after I was practicing talking when I was alone and got disgusted by the way I sounded.What if I make sure to always chew gum or have a cough drop if I plan on talking? Will that do anything?

does anyone know anything about this: http://www.voicedoctor.net/surgery/lower.html

I see no need in starting something as addicted and cancerous as smoking.. thats just ridiculous.I also would never have surgery on something as simply as my voice. You are still very young and your voice could still get deeper (As I said mine did).There were many times I was called ma'am on the phone, yes its annoying and frustrating, but you cannot let other people have this much control over you.

I'm sure some type of surgury can change your voice, but there are no guaranteed outcomes. You voice may become horribly raspy or something like that.

Have you ever thought about consulting a speech therapist? I don't know that it would help but you seem desparate.

I dunno, I feel like I'd rather die painfully of lung cancer in my 40s or 50s and feel confident when I talk then to be stuck with this whiny, nasally voice til I'm 80.On a side note, I can only breath functionally through one nostril at a time and when I was 15 I was told I had a deviated septum, does that affect voice?I feel like I have two voices sometimes and they switch, my deep confident voice which I like and my whiny girly voice which makes me want to rip my throat out. Nowadays all I have is that whiny voice.I hate getting called on in class, I am really considering just pretending to be deaf/mute

I know it seems like that now, but I am sure if you truly put it into perspective your voice being a little higher pitch isn't as big of a deal as you might think... nor is it worth dying early and possible a very painful death from cancer.

Like I said I totally understand, I have been in your shows. Its frustrating and its hurtful when people make such comments. Just remember they are the people with the real issue, not you!

Smoker here. I don't recommend picking up smoking for this purpose. There's a good chance it won't work how you want it to. Your voice may remain high but simply take on a more gravely quality, etc. In my assessment, it's not a good reason to risk a possibly long-term addiction and your health.After some googling, it appears there's an entire site dedicated to solving this sort of problem: http://www.deeper-voice.com/ed: Although the site is trying to sell you a book, there seems to be some good info on it apart from what they're selling.

The poster above beat me to the link. I've done the exercises and have gotten a slightly lower voice but it wasn't anything major so you shouldn't expect anything significant from it. Here's the specific page: http://www.deeper-voice.com/an-exercise-to-make-your-voice-sound-deeper