I can't figure people out.

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I'll start off and say, yes, I'm a very shallow person. Yes I'm judgemental, and no. I'm probably no better than these people who I'm "insulting." But I still have to say it.Over weight, obese people in particular kinda bother me, and even more so to date.I constantly hear complaints over this, but what bothers me even more is who seems to have the problems.Now the first complaint, I get is from everyone, and while in some cases they have a bit of the point, in others they seem to ignore the fact that this argument isn't solid. Such as "You can't judge a book by it's cover." Saying I can't tell about the persons personality by the way they look. Which on it's own isn't always correct.In most cases, you can tell someone who's obese is generally obese because they're lazy, they don't eat right and or they just don't care much about themselves. Now here's where it gets weird.I find most of these people, particularly girls, who start making up excuses for being overweight/obese to generally be twigs. Most of my over weight friends say they agree with what I say, they just can't be fucked with fixing their weight problem, but at least they admit it, and I'll respect th atBut these skinny ass bitches are constantly making complete BS excuses. The most common one I hear."Some people can't help it they have health conditions." Alright, that's all well and good, and I'm sure there is some out there that really can't help it, but 32% of america is obese and 30% are over weight. I highly doubt 62% of america have issues they absolutely cannot help."Some people are in wheel chairs, some have hernia's and can't do anything about their weight." Another bullshit excuse. My dad has a hernia and lose 20 pounds this summer. from 190-170. And I know some people in wheel chairs that are there just because their legs don't work can still get in shape. I've seen some pretty muscular people in wheel chairs.. Being in a wheel chair doesn't keep you from eating healthy or exercising with your arms."Some people are depressed and can't help it because they lost someone close to them." You know I was 264 pounds when I lost my grandparents, a good friend, my first love was raped and on top of that, being the reason of a death of a close friend. But guess what. I eat... erm well decently healthy and I exercise. I'm 150 now... So yeah, I don't want to hear people are depressed and that keeps them from losing weight.I know 1 person. 1 out of about at least 2,500 I know in person who actually has a condition where they can't lose weight, and even they're still capable of doing it, they have some heart problem supposedly where they're not allowed to lose more than 2 pounds a week or it will damage his heart supposedly.I mean, if you want to be fat and lazy or don't care or think your personality is good enough to not need to lose weight, knock yourself out, but don't come up with all these excuses why you absolutely can't or it's impossible. Because there's very few cases where you actually just can't lose weight because of a condition =/

..... Wow!
Interesting point of view. Thank you.
But in defense of obesity, here's "My Excuse".
I don't think it always is so clean cut. I agree there are some lazy people out there but it's lifestyle driven and sometimes people are not able to or are not in a position to make those changes. somewhere along the way, they lost their self esteem.
Have you watched the biggest looser... Without someone strong behind them (Like their trainers and support group) pushing them, forcing them to do it, they don't have the ability to make the change.
Low self esteem is very hard to overcome,

I think Americans are fat becasue they eat shit. We have a generation of junk food eaters that have stopped preparing foods at home but instead rely on prepared foods. Lack of exercise is a factor too.My mother and my wife are home-cookers. We don't eat out often and most of our meals are made from scratch. We also don't often buy chips and cookies and such junk. We eat fatty foods all the time yet we aren't obese. I'm not skinny though and am probably 15-20 lbs overweight.. I don't excercise and drink at least 2 cokes a day and am in my late 40's... But you see young people EVERYWHERE who are REALLY overweight and that's quite sad. People like to blame a lot of things other than the core issue... FOOD

interesting point of view (?)I kinda disagree with your depression argument tho. I actually read an article and did research on the issue of being overweight or obese among women specifically of different ethnicities.Many of these women who are overweight spoke of issues that go way back to when they were children and continued from there. I think they call it binging, when someone eats to the point where it's addictive to get rid of their depression. Many of the minority women said it was an alternative to doing drugs. Those were raped/sexually assaulted when they were children and even as it continued as they got older. Those who faced harsh and traumatizing discrimination. What was the other... I think it was poverty or financial instability... I think... I know it had to do with money. Verbal abuse growing up. Domestic violence in the home. The list goes on. Which it kind of makes sense because one of my friends who moved to New Jersey was gang raped by her cousins when she was 9 and she was one seriously disturbed girl. She's pushing 200 and she's a really short, really beautiful Puerto Rican girl. It's sad...

I don't know, I met my Love who was raped 7 years later, and dayyyyum she's fine.... Mentally disturbed yes. But very nice body... And yes I know I'm going to hell forever for making that statement.

O_o

well it's not as bad as the statement one of my close guy friends said to me "well it's no wonder you were sexually assaulted, you got the body of a goddess!"

real comforting...T_T

Kinda shitty, but it's a valid point. I mean, a rapist is probably going to go after a hotter girl. And, I don't know what kinda clothes you wear.

But I know a lot of the athletic girls here go around here in mini skirts or short shorts up to their crotch, to where if you have a boner you basically rape them accidentally bumping into them =/

Not saying that's the case for you, I'm just talking in general. No Ill will here *Pats you*