Clingy, Fugly Stalker Girl Won't Leave Me Alone

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So I met this girl who looks like the blueberry girl in Willy Wonka except she isn't blue. After having a 6 month dry spell I decided to fuck her just because I probably can't do much better even though I'm supposedly reasonably attractive. Then I somehow got some sense knocked into me and decided that not all pussy is good pussy and I'd rather be with a girl I can go out with in public and not feel ashamed or embarrassed. Problem is, I cannot just dump her and tell her that. She's extremely immature and clingy and insists on seeing me everyday. I'm always telling her I'm on a "trip" somewhere out of town just to avoid her. Now I just flat out ignore all calls and text messages.So yesterday I get 3 calls from a "RESTRICTED" number, I stupidly pick it up the third time and say "hello" and then just hear a click. Then she calls today from her actual number and hangs up after one ring. Why is she doing this? What the hell is her problem?I am worried she is going to slash my tires, or even worse boil my dog, or kill herself and make it look like a homicide linked to me.I mean being her weight and appearance she should expect that guys really won't respect her much. I am just tired of obese girls going after me and putting me on the spot where if I say no they automatically will think it's because they look fugly. I have never ONCE had a hot or even mildly attractive girl approach me and talk to me. Only fat girls do. So what do I do here? Should I move? Should I change my phone number, get a restraining order or a pit bull? Or just leave a trail of Ho Ho's leading in the opposite direction?

wow... srsly?

Quote:I mean being her weight and appearance she should expect that guys really won't respect her much.You're not good at thinking yourself into other people's shoes. You need practice at it.

Although focussed on what you consider to be "the immediate problem", you have an opportunity to learn something here. Take advantage of it.As for your immediate problem, be honest with her...tell her you're a dick and that she needs to move on. The damage to the both of you is already done...no sense in making it worse.

She gave me Chlamydia too so that's my main reason for ignoring her. If she was more attractive I maybe could have forgiven her since I don't have Chlamydia anymore and it really wasn't that terrible of an experience to have it but since she is fugly and has diseases I can no longer respect her.Also, I'm finding that I enjoy hurting girls this way after they've basically fallen in love with me. I cannot count how many times a girl has done this to me and I like making them feel the same way.

It appears that thor's suggestion that you tell her you are a dick would involve no untruth.

So I'm a dick because I don't want anything to do with a girl who gave me an STD? It's disgusting to me that she would be harboring such a pathogen inside her vagina and be fat and ugly on top of that. Ok, but why does she call and hang up at 12:30 AM after my phone rings once or call from "RESTRICTED" numbers, can anyone explain the psychology behind that? What is she trying to do? I am not going to talk her to anymore so will she just go away? I really think she thinks we were going to get married or something irrational and she's fucking psycho. Maybe she's going to kill me and then herself so we can "be together forever" or something fucked up. Is my life in danger?

You're a dick because you enjoy hurting girls who have fallen for you.

I can't tell what danger your life may be in, since I don't know the girl. It does seem rather far-fetched, though. But it wouldn't be surprising if she didn't like you. She will see it as you leading her on and then dumping her like a used tissue.

but......she did give me chlamydia....am i still a dick? don't i have a right?

did you have protected sex?

I'm having a hard time understanding this thread. Let me try to summarize. You want to sleep around but you don't want a girl that you fuck to also have slept around because she might have some disease that you some how think that it's not fair if you catch and if you do then you can be a dick to her. Did I get that right?

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though I'm supposedly reasonably attractive.

Ive seen a picture of you and ........ errrrr.....

Sounds like you two deserve eachother!! Fat people and fugly assholes go great together!!!

When have you seen a picture of me? I don't even have any pictures of me, not because I'm ugly just because I never have a good facial expression when a picture is taken so I always delete them. But I did post a photo on hotornot like 6 years ago and I had a 8.9/10 with like 300+ ratings so. And I've had girls say I'm "cute" or "good looking" they're always way too young though so it doesn't really help me much.And I don't "sleep around" I'm lucky if I have sex every six months and I'm not just looking for sex, I'd rather have a girlfriend but it's just that the girls I manage to attract are only good for that and I can only do it if the room is dark and I've had enough to drink. It is not fair that only fat girls make moves on me. They're just so disgusting, so inflated and flabby. I've grabbed onto a roll of fat thinking it was a breast once, should ANYONE have to endure that experience? You probably all think I'm "shallow" and whatnot but I am not, I can look past small aesthetic defects, I would go out with a girl with one leg or a girl who had cancer or something but a girl who is 250 lbs is fucking disgusting, there is no excuse to be that fat, that is morbidly obese and it's a disease. How does that happen? Do they just eat mayonnaise out of the jar all the time?I don't go making fun or fat girls for no reason, I haven't done that since grade school when it was cool to make fun of the dirty kid who was probably poor or the kid who shit his pants in kindergarten who we'd call "shitty-pants" up until he graduated from high school. I think of myself as pretty liberal and accepting nowadays but does that mean I am obligated to date a fat girl if the only reason I can think of not dating her is her weight? Is anyone who let's appearance be a factor in who they go out with "shallow"? There are other important things but if a girl is really fat that means to me she does not take care of herself or have any pride whatsoever and I just don't want to be a part of that. Oh yeah and I see plenty of fat girls talk shit about skinny girls so it's not all one-sided.Fuck all of you and your characterizations of what "shallow" is. I bet if I presented a person of the opposite sex (or same for some of you) who had all the "good" qualities except their face and body was covered in leaking, leprosy sores all over I bet you would not look past that. Don't call the kettle black you motherfuckers.

No, I didn't but she DID mention to me something about her being really careful about STDs and I didn't have a condom, they charge like $5.99 for those fuckers so I went in anyways. Two weeks later my testicles feel swollen, it burns when I piss, and itches like a motherfucker where I can't scratch it. And I had to tell my fuckin parents since I'm under their insurance so that really pisses me off. This girl is a dirty, fat, lying slutbag who probably gets railed out by homeless guys since no one else would want her.

What makes you shallow is the fact you used this girl for sex.. nothing more without letting her know thats all you wanted. You are basically saying fat girls are okay to fuck but otherwise they are no good and they are disgusting. THAT's what makes you a dick and shallow.

You need to grow up. If you are not attracted to the girl than don't have sex with them... horny? Go jerk off and save yourself from getting another STD and hurting peoples feelings.

Its fine if you want to think over weight people are fat and disgusting but don't get pissed at people when you say it out loud and call you an ass.

I didn't have that goal initially. She was the one who decided to put out without barely knowing me so from then on everything was just based on sex. When I thought about it and realized I could never call this girl my girlfriend because I was too ashamed to take her in public, I pretty much started ignoring her calls and texts. I don't think "fat girls are just ok to fuck" it's more along the lines of that I am so frustrated that I cannot get a healthy, good-looking girl that I think is greater than or equal to me in attractiveness so because I don't want to go years without sex, I'll occasionally take whatever girl throws herself at me but I just don't plan on taking it further than sex. Had she not given me Chlamydia I would still be talking to her and maybe would have let her down easily but she deserves to be hurt and confused for being a plague infected whore. I thought being as fat as she was she wouldn't have had many sexual experiences but I guess her low-self esteem means she is a neighborhood bike.

You really havent changed one bit.

With an attitude like yours, I wouldn't be surprised if you stayed single and/or never have sex with another woman again.I don't understand how people can have the mentality that you do. It doesn't make sense to me.

Well the thing is I don't have an attitude like this IRL, this is just my repressed feelings and frustrations about how there seems to be gaggles of single fat girls and I still can't meet a quality girl. I probably will have sex again, in a few years there will be another morbidly obese girl with low self esteem and I'll have at it, I'm just tired of that cycle.

You come off, white_lines, as entirely lacking in empathy - the ability to feel things from the other person's viewpoint. You may think you don't show that attitude in real life, but it is likely that it is more evident than you think, and this causes most girls to avoid you - so all you get are those who are desperate for company and self-validation (which they then don't get).If you want to change that you need to work on yourself. You need to see other people not as specimens, but as humans who have as much right to respect as you do - who are not just part of your world, but co-equal beings.