Hmm, ok I don't know where to start really... This will be quite long..I am 16 and at 6th form at my local college (if anyone doesn't know, that's basically college integrated into secondary school)(UK,btw)I'm part of the school schoir, as part of my music course, and there's a girl in the choir that I really like, and we both are friendly with each othert, and when w catch each others eyes we smile and stuff and I'm not sure but I think she has the same feelings for me s I do her.Just the only problem is, she is in year 8, 4 years below me, so I have no idea what to do. I know that if I do ask her out or something, I will just be called a peado and a perv.. Even without doing anything. I also think there will be a little bit of dubious thought about me, as she is also japanese, and I know some people think its a bit dodgy when caucasians get into relationships with asians, so that would bring up more critiscism.I'm not saying that I want to start dating her now, I just mean if I want to form a relationship with her in a few years, say 3 or four, when she's 16 and I'm 20, will that be seen as acceptable, or not, and should I just leave it? I'm the youngest in my year, born on the cut off-date, so a day later I would be in year 11 right now, so I think that takes the edge off the age difference a bit, but I honestly don't know what to do, how long to leave it if I do leave it or what Also, before you start making assumptions, she does look older than she is, I'm not into younger people as a rule, and we do talk, I know I made it sound like we don't, but we do lol.I'm just a bit confused I mean, is this seen as completely wrong? I've seen people a year older than me go out with 12 Y/O but no-ones made much fuss, so I really don't know
4 years age difference
I don't think there is anything wrong with forming a friendship with this girl, but you probably don't want to do anything romantic. At least not for a couple of years. When yo are 16, your maturity level is very different from that of a 12 year old. When you are 20 you are at a whole different stage of you life than a 16 year old. But when you are 28, a 24 year old may not be that different, and in your 30s there would practically be no difference. It's all a society standard, but you need to allow that girl to grow into the woman she is going to grow into first. Just think about you being 12, and think of all the things you have learned in the 4 years it took to turn 16, know think about that knowledge double and tripled. Its something that due to societies constraints you should avoid. At least in my opinion.