My girlfriend and I recently started having sex. We're both 21 years old, and prior to this she had only had sex once in her life. Her first time happened well over a year ago, and resulted in her getting a UTI.Currently, she has pills she has to take after having sex that help prevent UTIs, however, that is not the problem. The problem is, we had sex 4 times in ~24 hours, and it was after each time that she realized that she was very sore.She said that the sex was great while it was happening, but once it was over, it was very very sore. Along with this, it sometimes hurts for her to pee and was somewhat itchy. I am assuming the hurting to pee has to deal with the urethral opening being irritated during sex. However, I am curious as to why she is still sore today. If we had sex on Saturday Night/Sunday Morning, she is still very sore today (Tuesday). It probably didn't help that we fooled around Monday night (oral/fingering). It was then we also realized she bled a very little bit (just a spot).I am just curious as to why she is so sore/itchy and if there is anything I can do to help prevent this in the future and possibly cure it now. We picked up some vagisil to help temporarily relieve the discomfort, but I just wish she wouldn't be sore Personally, My size is a little above average I guess, but it is nothing to write home about. Could she possibly just be sore due to the change in sexual activity for her?Could it be due to the condom perhaps? Any ideas or help is greatly appreciated!
Irritation / Sex Question
All of this can play a part in her being sore.. The fact that she is new to sex, size, roughness, frequency, duration of sex... She should be fine if you give her a couple of days rest.
Your Girlfriend could also have a minor form of vulvodynia. Her nerves down there might be overly sensitive to touch. Is she is allergic to latex....you should stay away from latex condoms. If she puts latex gloves on and keeps them on for at least 30min and doesnt have any reaction to them...she's probably ok with latex....if you use lubricants...she should only be using a pharmacuetical one called Slippery Stuff. You should read my post on Vulvodynia....its a hard disorder (if this is what she is suffering from) there are a variety of severities of it. Mine is soooo bad I cant wear pants or underpants....I wear long skirts.
Well my girlfriend and I actually had a discussion the other night about if she should sleep with underwear on even. She typically wears sweats or shorts with a pair of underwear at night.
If she was overly sensitive to touch wouldn't fingering or anything similar irritate it? Before we ever had sex we fooled around a lot like that and she never complained of pain except for once when I got my fingers in a little too deep.
Along with this she usually always wears jeans out in public. I don't think it is as extreme as your case, but it is definitely a possibility I guess.
As far as the latex allergy goes, I will look into trying non-latex condoms.
She said this morning that she felt a little better, but I can imagine that means she is still sore. I'm still hoping it just is due to the change in sexual activity and will improve over time.
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I know this post is a little old, but she could actually try Desitin (the stuff that is used for diaper rash). My doctor recommended it at my last visit and it has actually helped me quite a bit. There's is also a soothing soak that she can put together easily:1 Qt Water2 Tbs. Vinegar1 Tsp. SaltPut all of that in a spray bottle and use after urination and pat dry.