This is a really sad topic but I need to talk. My parents love my younger siblings more and no matter the situation, it's my fault. My younger siblings lie to get me in trouble and it always works! When I get angry at how unfair this treatment is things get taken away, (tech, dessert, etc.) and my parents and I end up in screaming matches. They don't take my mental health seriously and always put my siblings first. One of my (2) younger siblings even said to me that it would be better if I wasn't "a part of the family" and how all I do is disappoint my parents.
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I Hate My Parents
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Welcome to A2A, SparkleWitch.
Some people might say, "Oh, but your parents really do love you"--but what do they know? Parents are not always good parents. There's no test of even basic competence at the job that parents have to pass to become parents; all that is necessary is the ability to have sex.
And sometimes the personalities of parent and child just don't mesh well. Just because there is a blood relation doesn't guarantee compatible personalities. For any of us, there are some people who rub us up the wrong way. Often we can avoid them, but not if we have to share a house and a dinner table.
On top of that, the oldest child has a difficult job. Parents tend to have trouble with the concept of their children growing up. They want to treat them the same as they did before--they want them to be the same as they were before--and they have to be taught different. It's usually the oldest child who has to do that teaching, who has to fight for every change. The younger children then get automatically, and at a younger age, what the oldest child has had to wrest with much trouble and arguing.
You don't mention your age, and it does make a difference. The situation is often worst early-to-mid teens, and gets better after that (though not always). Sometimes all you can do is to make sure you have a supportive life outside home, and move away as soon as you can. Try to avoid bones of contention, unless it is your duty to speak up.
I'm afraid that there is no simple fix, but when you are out of home and out of the toxic environment, you can start to heal. It will take a long time, though, if ever, before you can assess your parents' good and bad qualities dispassionately.