"Ok so there's this girl" as every post begins. Well i have a bit of history with this girl. We have been friends since she moved here 4 years ago. Two years ago i took her to my high school Homecoming. We would constantly flirt, i thought it was made to be; however, i asked her out and she said no. She said that we were such good friends she didnt want to change that. So a year later, we are still very good friends. I see her all the time in school and it still seems to me like we are always flirting. She is not this way around other guys. Often i have given up on her, and gone to other girls. I keep coming back to her though, because we just seem so perfect together. SO, I want to make a move on her again, change our friendly relationship to a more romantic one. To do this i need to spend some time with her. However, i only see her in school and we never hang out; If i called her or asked her to go somewhere with me im afraid it would seem "weird" to her. Now, i could get a group thing going, but my friends arent friends with her friends, and she doesnt hang out with anyone i know very well. So i have a dillemma (thanks for reading all this) How do i turn a friendly relationship to a romantic without coming on too strong and messing with our friendship?
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Girl Friend >to> Girlfriend?
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Well, you do seem attached to her. ("I keep coming back to her though, because we just seem so perfect together") But in this case, her view of her relationship with you doesn't seem to have changed. Perhaps this "flirting" is just her way of being close to you, since you say you two are very close. Since you can't exactly force her to date you, you may just have to settle in and move on if she still doesn't want to be romantically involved. Continue being friends with her, and if "it was meant to be" (as they say) it'll occur. If she'd feel uncomfortable seeing you outside of school, there's definetly more development you may have to go through before you decide to ask her again. Maybe try and get her to spend more time with you outside of school. It may or may not progress from there.Good luck.
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been there, dont thatafter she turns you down the first time with the ol friend routine you might as well let it go bro. anyone who says that never really means it. marriages have come out of best friends turned couple. how can you seriously date if you're not friends? i hate that excuse!You can try one more time but the answer is prolly gonna be the same. It sounds like youre way too attached & need a little time to get over her. And yes, she flirts to stay close to you, not cause she wants to date you. God this story is the exact replicate of my "first flame" which ended in my heart broken. But I lived & learned & the incident taught me a very important lesson - never act like you "need" any girl. Girls date assholes, thats all there is to it. Now I dont mean be an ass, I'm just sayin dont treat any girl like a queen & flood her with "i love you" & all that other junk. Like I said, I've done that ever since I got played, or so I thought I got played.Sorry for rambling, my advice - let it go.
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yeah ive had another girl pull the "friend" thing, its all too commonthough this girl i actually believed- and its not like im too attached to her to get over her, its just that i see her every day and we get along so well i want to see where it might go.I have gotten over her more than once-usually during the summer i dont see her much and i have other girls in my life and i dont even think about her, but then i start seeing her again every day and she just always catches my attentionalso she isnt the kind of girl that needs to be babied, i dont give her an extravagant amount of special attention.I've had many girlfriends while still liking this girl, because i like other girls and im not afraid to reach out a bit. Just happens that whenever I am single she is always at the top of my listthanks for the tips- anyone else?
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o, and this girl, she's never had a real boyfriend so long as I've known her (4 years)- so it could possibly just be a "new thing" and she is just used to being friends with everyone. Just seems to me that if we were together, she would be really happy with it being more than a friendship.
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I have come to the conclusion that most girls want to date strangers, not friends.
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yeah its weird dating someone you know tooo too well