Let's talk about my foreskin.

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Well, I've always found it a good topic to break the ice when in new company.

I'm 38 yrs old. My parents never took an interest in my penis as a lad and as such I never knew that I should be tugging on it from a pubesant age to widen my foreskin.
As a result I had never been able to see let alone uncover my head.
In fact all I could ever see down the tiny hole of my foreskin was darkness. Mastabation was always a profound joy (and still is) but was never attempted with pulling the skin back. Then about a tear ago I was having sex and I felt a pain. I withdrew and my skin for the first time in my life was back behind the head of my penis. It's funny now, but at the time I panicked like a girl, frantically trying to recover my penis. I tried and tried but couldn't and was quite distressed.The head of my penis was turning purple and swelling beyond all proportions because it was literally being strangled. Even when I went flacid it still wouldn't budge untill I pinched it either side with my fingernails to stop it slipping and forcefully pulled it back. The experience was quite traumatic and put me off sex for a few weeks. This episode has repeated itself on a few occasions since, and now happens when I'm fortunate enough to get oral sex (Birthday's, anniversary's). I decided to do some research and was lucky enough to stumble onto this site,where I read about 'stretching the foreskin'. I had never considered the fact that this could be done. Over the last couple of weeks I've been bashing the bishop at every opportunity (any excuse , right ?) and easing the foreskin further down each time. While my skin is still very tight, last night for the first time, with a little aid from the baby oil, I completely uncovered my 'helmet' of my own volition. Boy, does that bugger smart when you touch it or what !!.....Can't believe that I'm ever going to be desensitised enough to let anyone else touch it ?. My question (yes there finally is one) is this :

The foreskin appears to be 2 layered, one moving over the other. When it sits behind the head it appears to be the inner layer that is extremely tight. When it's in that position I can't move it all downwards and it squeezes my penis, indenting it and cutting off the blood !!. I can't stretch it further because it narrows half an inch or so down the foreskin and I can't get hold of it. Will it stretch further just with the force of the penis when erect pushing out on it.

Many thanks.

Given that you're starting this process 25 years too late, things might progress a bit slower but perhaps not. Yes generally the goal is to pull back when erect using the width of your erection to stretch outwards. You can still do this but it does take time. As an alternative you can try something else when flacid. Try getting your pinky fingers inside the foreskin. You'll need to pull forward as much as you can in order to make room for your pinkies. If you can get it in then you can stretch from the inside out. Perhaps you can retract when flaccid and then roll the forskin over your fingers. If you had 4 hands then this would be easier, but give it a shot.

Thank you for your reply.
I'm certainly going to carry on with the stretching
as much as possible, although it's a bit embarassing
on the bus.
A weird coincidence occured today though.......
I've been reading studies about steroid cream application
in cases of tight foreskins and it's benifits in most cases.
I noticed that the active ingredient was 'betamethasone' in it's various guises. That rang a bell and sure enough in my medicine cupboard I've enough 'betamethasone valerate' to float a small dingy. I've been getting it from the Doc for flare ups of psoriasis. It's a lotion rather than a cream and only 0.1% strength instead of the 0.5% but beggars can't be choosers right. I read the leaflet and sure enough in the "uses list" is *phimosis*. So, I'll be "Splashing all over" as they say, from now on. Fingers crossed it'll help a little.

Is getting it removed not an option?

It's always an option I suppose.......but not one that's particularly high on my list.

please, never remove the skin. it is actually unique on the human body.there is no skin that is physically like it anywhere else.
i must appoligise for my adimantcey on this. I find it unusual that you got to such an age without retracting your foreskin. I was taught to wash that way as a child. i also can't imagine what it's like to jerk off without a foreskin.
further, i've been with women that didn't realise that i was complete because the skin retracts fully when erect.
sorry, i'm ranting a bit but i really love my uncut best friend!

so, had you never washed underneath it before you had had sex that included pain?

exellent point!

God.. I just love it when someone comes on board and pipes in "Just cut it off".blackman: could you rephrase that? It's hard to understand what you are asking.BJ67: Yes, steriod creams are a standard treatment to help loosen the skin in order to aid in the stretching process. Although you should consult a doctor, it shouldn't hurt to try.

is there any way of desensitising without going through a LOT of pain, im only 14 and have started strecting my foreskin for a month now and i can get it half way down, how long will it take to get it all the way down?also, how are you meant to clean under the foreskin, i know its very unhygenic not to and would like to startthanks

Can't answer you on how long it will take. It depends on the person and how you are doing it.As to cleaning, you just need to run water over the foreskin and glans and rub with your fingers. It's probably too sensitive to do much rubbing yet, but work at it. Soap is optional. If you do use soap, make sure you thoroughly rinse before push the forskin back over the glans.

At first the pain will be really intense when you touch the foreskin. But the best way is to touch it when you're in the shower and it's always wet. It's also less sensitive when you use moisturizer etc. When I first learned to roll back my foreskin, I just used to wash with soap and that made touching it less painful. So I just massaged it. Eventually it reached the point where I could touch it without feeling any pain.