He doesn't call...

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The guy I like lives a few hours away from my college. When we first started talking I told him that I would like for him to call me every night so we can talk..and he did. We hung out a little bit over break, but then he went back to college. The last time he called was to tell me we'll be able to see each other in about three weeks, but he hasn't called me since. Is his ass really about to wait to talk to me when we see each other in a few weeks or am I foolin' myself? I'm an attractive girl, so why wouldn't he keep wanting to talk to me all the time? Am I wrong for asking him to call me all the time? Gosh, life sucks so much right now...

Calling everyday can be too much for some guys. It's hard to tell what's going on in his head. My advice is don't complain the next time you talk to him.

I don't know how the man's mind works, but if is so busy or doesn't want to call me everyday, then why won't he just say that to me. I'm a big girl. I can take it. He agreed to call me everday, though. The truth sounds so much better than lies, you know? If he trying not to hurt me, well then he's doing a HORRIBLE job. What would you do, websexinfo?

Yeah, it's either he's not trying to hurt you or there's something else going on. You should probably give him a call, but don't mention him not calling you like he said he would. Chances are he'll be the first to explain if you don't say anything about it at first, but if the conversation goes well and he hasn't mentioned not calling you then at the end of the conversation say something like, "Well I love talking to you so give me a call every so often, okay?" If the response is minimal and you just say your goodbyes and hang up, give him a few days to see if he'll call you sooner than before. If he's really worth the trouble then it should pay off.

He's not going to say that he doesn't want to call you everyday, especially when you say that you want him too. He figures you'd be pissed at him for that, or he doesn't want to hear any complaining about it. So it's just easier to not call at all, rather then call and get an earful.

hmmmmm, maybe it's just me, but I think you shouldn't have to ASK a guy to call. Sometimes us females question the facts that are laid before us. If he wanted to talk to you wouldn't he call? Maybe he's busy, or maybe he just doesn't want to talk to you. After all he's not your boyfriend, so you can't get mad if he doesn't call you every day. Why dont you just call him?

It could be that he doesn't know if he's intruding on your life. So he's scared to call ya. There could be other reasons why he doesn't call besides the one that are being said here.

lol Girl, I hope it's some other reason besides the worst case scenario. Let me say that when I do call him, he does call me back. But he doesn't call me everyday like he use to. I know that if I didn't want to talk someone I would either A) tell them or B)don't call or answer my phone when he calls. So that's why I'm confused. If he just stop answering my calls, then I would know he doesn't want to talk to me. But he does answer them. So now what's up?

ok. i am a guy and here is the score. he is sleeping around. he isn't calling because he has lost interest and is hoping it (the relationship) will just 'go away' w/o him having to face up to anything. don't let him get away w it. call him and say, listen, you agreed to call me everyday, i am just wondering if you still want to be with me or if i am wasting my time here. if not, well, i will move on, but i do need to know either way.

In reply to: I know that if I didn't want to talk someone I would either A) tell them or B) don't call I'd go with B... You just answered your own question. Maybe he's not calling you because of the exact same reasons YOU wouldn't call someone

But how does that answer my question if he does answer my phone calls? He just doesn't call me like he use to. He doesn't see me everyday, so there is no risk of him running into me, so I'm confused to the fact that he does call me back and leaves me messages and everything. What I don't get is if he truly does not want to talk to me, why even call me back and leave me messages? Why not just block my number or don't return my phone calls?

Maybe he's just trying to be nice about it. He probably doesn't have a strong interest in you anymore, but he still wants to talk with you every now and then, ya know- to make sure you're still alive.

Maybe you're just overreacting. He is answering calls and returning them. Maybe it's freaking him out that you're so desperate to talk with him all of the time. Whatever it is, try bringing it up with him. You don't have to be really upfront or anything, but find out more about the situation before speculating.