Well I'm 14 going on 15 and I've been single since I was about 8, which I don't really see as counting since it was barely serious... kinda hard to be at that age. I'm asking if I really should be going out with someone at this point. About half of my friends are in some kind of relationship or have been recently, but there's still a good number of them who haven't been with anyone (or at least to my knowledge). There's a number of girls who I consider myself friends with and talk to frequently, but I haven't really been able to get the guts to go and ask one of them out. What do you all think?
About what age should a guy be dating?
Well, do you like these girls? Don't feel like you have to ask someone out just to be like your friends.
And many people start dating at different ages, many of my friends have been dating since they were 12 while others remained single well into their 20s. It all depends on when you meet a girl that you really like.
And asking her out shouldn't be a problem, just phrase it in a way that you are making it clear that you are asking her out, but leaving the oppertunity to shrug it off if you get turned down... but don't make it seem like you were only asking for the hell of it. Seem dissapointed but not pathetic.
I seem to be giving good advice for being turned down, I have way too much experience with it! - lol :grin:
In reply to: About what age should a guy be dating? when he's ready for it :P, with a genuine interest in the girl, not an image or 'cool' thing
At your age, everything is kind of trial-and-error. I mean, with every new stage of you life that you come into, it's really just about gaining the experience that will prepare you for whatever is next. Ages 13-15, at least from what I remember, kinda help you get used to the feelings and behavior that comes along with relationships. You will have pleanty of time in highschool and college to date different kinds of girls and be involved in serious relationships. Any kind of relationship I can remember from my early teens was always surrounded by drama, but what isn't in middle school? It seems silly to be asking out girls just so you are not the only guy without one. I think that if you are going to start dating, you should think about going out with a girl who you would consider a good friend, and that you think is particularly special. Dont limit youself to girls from any specific group, you know, the kind that get passed around between you and your guy friends every two weeks. Or you can just experiment with the dating thing at your own pace and come out of your first relationships with a better understanding of "women"...you will find it will take you a lifetime to understand women, so I guess it couldnt hurt to start now. At the very least, you'll have someone to make out with at the movies. Either way, dating at your age is light-hearted, so dont buy into all the drama that goes with it, and enjoy yourself.
I wouldn't sweat it buddy. I put off girlfriends until I got a driver's license. At which point, I dated a bunch of girls but didn't have the bf/gf title. Like others have said, ask someone out if you really like them. Don't do it to fit in.