Hey everyone, let me just start off by saying I'm so glad that there is something like this out there. A place filled with mature people who acknowledge their problems with each other, and want to help each other out. That's amazing.
On to my problem though, I believe I do have phimosis. I had never thought there was anything wrong with my penis (like everyone else does). I'm 17, and I have an on going girlfriend. We'll probably have sex soon. I was prepared, until I realized I was different from other guys. I have a tight ring on the head of my penis. I had never thought anything of it. I had never masturbated the " traditional " way, but I thought it was just an individual choice on how to do it. I never rubbed my penis against my bed or anything though. I would stick my index finger into the ring like thing on my head, and rub it around inside clockwise. This gave me a pleasure so I figured I was right about it, but then after noticing others penises, it was quite obvious I wasn't normal.
I'm grateful my penis was not too tight that it was possible to stick the tip of my index finger in there. I did know something had to be done about this though. I started researching this on the internet, and I had saw circumsion, creams and stretching. Stretching seemed like the easiest thing, since I don't have money for surgery, and besides I'm too embarassed to tell anyone about this. I just started stretching yesterday. What I do is, I take my thumb and index fingers on both hands and pull the ring horizontal wise gently. Then I would do it vertically, and repeat for about 10 minutes. Then I tried beating off the " traditional " way, by rubbing my penis up and down, and making the ring pull back and not. It doesn't pull back all the way, I can see my gland though, it's always been like that though. After I masturbated, I did the stretching thing again for 5 minutes then went to sleep.
The next day, I masturbated the traditional way, then I took a shower and stretched my penis horizontal and vertically for 10 minutes, I found it was harder to do it in the shower. I then stretched again in my room, the same way, for about 10 minutes. I also tried to stick both my thumbs inside, which seemed easier then stretching. I have experienced no pain of any sort, I think I might have a TINY tear though.
A few questions, first off, am I doing this right so far? If not, is this dangerous? About stretching, I read other people aren't stretching the same way I am, and that they are trying to retract the head of their penis back. I tried doing this, but it doesn't go far, should I be doing this? If the ring goes away and I have my glands showing normally like anyone else, how long should I go without having sex? What should I do during this time, should I keep stretching? How long does this process usually take, and how often should I stretch? When I do the traditional masturbation, I still stick my finger in my penis to get my penis going a bit, should I stop doing this and just masturbate normally?
This has made me very worried. I want this to go away and I want to be normal. I don't want the love of my life to think I'm a freak or something, and I would love to engage in sex with her, because I've never felt anyway like I have before with her. This is why I want this cured. If you guys could please help me get a better understanding of this, I would be very greatful. My apologies for the novel length post, but this has made me go into a depression and I want this out of my life.
Thank you very much.