If there's no emotional connection, then you can't expect a physical one...have you actually sat down with a GOOD therapist and talked about the emotional relationship?
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Considering an affair
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Woohoo, give it up for the BBWs *winkwink* Okay, that was a bad joke, I know, but I couldn't resist. Okay Skinnerguy, you said that you've gone to counciling, but have you sat down and had a one on one conversation with your wife about this? Have you sat her down and explained how you feel about your sexual relationship? I'm against having affairs, but if you're not getting your emotional and physical needs satisfied, seperate from your wife. DON"T CHEAT, because it can cause a really messy situation and believe me, you wont want to go there. But talk to your wife first, try every option before you give up on this marriage. Have you tried rekindling(ms?) that spark between you two that brought you together in the first place? Try a romantic getaway for two, or maybe even just get a babysitter and take your wife out for a night on the town. Just try everything you can before looking outside of your marriage. Good luck, I wish you the best ^_^
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Cheating is not the answer! I am 99.9% positive that your kids would be hurt more if you cheat on their mom, than if you divorce her. My uncle cheated on my aunt, and my cousin refuses to see, talk to, or talk about her father. I'm sure not everyone will feel the same way, but do you want to take that chance? What if you're caught? What if your kids hold that against you for the rest of your life? Do you really want that?Have you asked her why she doesn't want sex? Try and understand her feelings and then explain your's. Tell her that she has her needs, and you have your's. If your needs aren't met, it won't be a very satisfying relationship.
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do it, video tape it and send it to your wife, saying: 'this is what you are missing out on'and really, she don't need it at home? then she is definitely getting it somewhere else.
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YA! and send me a copy too (for the archives)
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"do it, video tape it and send it to your wife, saying: 'this is what you are missing out on'"LOL last you are sooooo smooth hon (please note the sarcasm in that sentence)
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In reply to: LOL last you are sooooo smooth hon you want to take a ride on the Last train, don't you?
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The "Last train" hahahahahahahahahahahahaha nice one
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"you want to take a ride on the Last train, don't you?"Last - your right, I can't hide it anymore......damn and I thought I was doing sooo well too hugs
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skinnerguy, write your wife a letter and let her know how you feel. tell her to write you back and see how it goes. after 38 years and 18 of those in a marriage or a long term relationship with a woman, i have found it works better to write it out. if she tells you she just doesn't want to have sex then tell her to explain why. sounds like it's time to spice things up a little. after a few years and a couple of kids a marriage can get into a rut and it's up to you guys to crank it back up if you want it to last. i've herd women say they try to keep their man happy at home because if he ain't gett'n it at home he will get it somewhere else and i'm sure your wife knows this. i think your a hell of a man for not looking else where already. if things don't work out try a long term separation but i wouldn't have an affair, it will come back to bite you on the ass and this is a dog speaking from experience. hell hath no furry like a woman scorned and it is very true.
