Will he ever propose?

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been with my man for nearly 4 yrs now , very happy, we have a house and financial commitments together. But he just wont ask me to marry him. im desperate!he says he wants to get married....but when?any ideas

Don't push him, let him come to the decision because he wants to marry you, not just to shut you up!I have been living with my fiance now for 8 years, and he has always made it clear he wanted to get married from the beginning of our relationship, but I never felt ready, or wanted to - I was happy with the way things were - then all of a sudden, after all this time, I felt the time was right, and we are planning on this August for a medieval handfasting (witches wedding) I just wanted to marry him SO much.......beleive me nagging or going on about weddings will just make him pissed off - it used to really get on my nerves and make me not even wanna think about it, never mind want to actually do it..........if you can, just let it happen!

Hm? How come girls don't propose...?He probably either not ready or wants to surprise you. Most likely he has a fear of commitment...and it will soon turn into a bigger problem for you and him. However I wonder why marriage is so important? I mean, if you're happy to be together why have a marriage? lol, I'm not mature enough to understand

Hmmm...well...I think Dr. Phil said if couples don't get married within 3 years of being together, there is a slim to none chance that they ever will. You're already living as "man and wife", so he's pretty much "getting the milk for free without buying the cow". You feel me? Not to be a downer but he might just telling you ya'll will get married so you will leave him alone about it. And besides, marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be. Marriage is a joke nowadays. Sorry if that's sound harsh and I probably shouldn't be dispensing advice since I'm the one in counseling....

yeah i thought about propsing to him, but i just cant. i dont want to tell ppl for the rest of my life that i proposed. hmmm well today is valentines day....so i'll keep ya'll posted.

He probably likes getting laid... If you get my drift!

i think everything that has been said has good truths to it

but honestly the only one who will really know is him. you could either ask him why he hasnt proposed, or ask him to marry you.. either way, you'll get a response :smile:

and realisticly, you won't be telling people for the rest of your life that you proposed to him! it would only be for a short while, then everyone would just accept you as a married couple

does anyone ask for your hsc result now? no! cause no one cares about it, you've finished school, you've either got education or a job.
but at the time it was a huge deal to everyone...

tell him you will fuck his brother if he doesn't marry you immediately.

bahaha... that should work Last...

yeah his brother is pretty hot.hey cool, you must be a guy right......cause women always ask other chicks how they got engaged. its just what they do.

In reply to: hey cool, you must be a guy right......cause women always ask other chicks how they got engaged. its just what they do. i'm sure they do, when it happens.but does it last forever?and yes, i'm a guy

Maybe you havn't proposed to him, cos you feel he doesn't want it and will say no, and then you will both have to make a decision as to where your relationship goes from there..........who says you have to get married anyway? If your both really happy then enjoy it!

well it was valentines and i was pushing the issue, and he totally got pissed off.i asked him what the problem was and if he wasnt sure and he flipped.....he said 'its getting really f$@*ing annoying.ouch!i think i better cool it

yeah, it reminds me of when I had my first truck at 14. It didn't run and the body was shit. My dad came to me at least once a day and asked, "Did you work on your truck?" After 6 months of that, I was about to snap. I was ready to take my truck and set it on fire.

My standard answer to all of this...A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush as confucious say...God, be happy would you?? Just be happy. Live life knowing you are not alone and be happy.I came out of years of being alone and lonely until I met HelmsmaN... I was soooo sad that I was killing myself...Whenever I had friends at work or whatever in your situation, I always asked them how they would like to change places with me???Get a grip on what it would be like to be in this life without someone and then set your priorities??K