Asking someone out
Ok, this is my first post, but it probably won't be my last.
I'm thinking about asking this girl out. We are already friends and I talk to her a lot. Now theres really only one thing holding me back to asking her out. The after effect, I'm not afraid of her saying No. The thing I'm afraid of is her saying No, and then have her thinking everytime I talk to her I'm flirting with her.
What should I do?
You could say, "Listen, I don't want to ruin what we have as far as our friendship goes, and if you say no or have a BF I apologize in advance, but, would you like to get some ICE CREAM with me sometime." Damn I'm good!
A big problem is when a girl likes you as a friend, a lot of times it's hard for them to get interested in you romantically. Just ask her if she would be happy if you two were together. If she gives you a definite yes, go for it, if it's a maybe, then mess with the idea for a while and feel it out, if she says something to the effect of no, then just back off.
I always think the best way to do this if you really are interested is to get pissed togeather, ask her out when you've both been drinking, if she says yes, then great! If she says no then you can blame your move on the alcohol (Assuming your old enough to drink that is )
sexpert....ice cream?!?! this generation of kids would laugh at a comment like that.
you wanna ask a girl out that is your friend. Very simple. First, be coo and calm about it...think of it as if youve asked a million times. Then, politely ask her out on a date...now if she says no and your worried about her thinking your flirting...well easy solution my friend - ask another girl out. Not also will she not think your flirting with her, she will also get jealous...I gurantee this works...never ever fails. Especially to high school girls - cuz they get extremely jealous and think "what does she got that I dont have?" type of thing
Eh, careful on that one... almost had 2 girls fighting over me cuz of something like that.
Never actually ask a girl out. Asking her out gives her power over you. She knows she has something you want and she can make you work to get it, and even then not give it. It's a delicate thing, the best way is to let one thing lead to another and 'see her' if possible. 'Going out' is more a formal affair whereas 'seeing her' is more casual and equal. Women are evil creatures and will walk all over you if you let 'em.
In reply to: If he wants to go out w/ her, he would have to initiate the relationship Sad sad world. In the history of humanity, it hasn't changed that it's supposedly the males responsiblity to create the relationship. I love the girls who initiate the relationship. More power to ya.
Ok thanks everyone will try one of those things. But about the whole Ice cream thing... even if I was lucky enough for her to say yes, my town doesn't have an ice cream store lol
Yeah, I was referring to all cases though... a dominant amount of relationships had to initiated by the male. But, whatever, I guess females put up with enough shiz.
overall, females have it tougher than males. But as far as initiating the relationship, a lot of times that responsiblity is left up to the male.
This use to work for me when I was in high school and university.
I would ask a girl for help in a subject we share. Make it that she is really helping me and I would be lost without her help. Afterwards, sound so gratefull that I MUST buy her a drink at the campus pub.
Nice Mr. Slick.
very slick you get a date and you prob will get better grades too.
lol. double whammy if you will.
THATS IT! i was trying to think about what to call it and it was on the tip of my dam tongue lol.
Since a thread has already been made, I'll ask my question here as to not post numerous similar threads cuz I know those are annoying.
Anyway, I went to a local concert Saturday and this guy I know, Nick randomly put his arm around my waist. I asked him what he wanted (playfully) because he is NOT the type to do that, at all. He just smiled, laughed and said that he was really baked. Then kinda squeezed my waist and I put my arm around him and we stayed like that for at least an hour. When the concert was over, I told him I didn't have a ride so he asked his friend to give me a ride (he doesn't have his license yet) and he agreed so Nick sat in the back w/ me and cuddled w/ me. When we got to my house, he reached over me and opened the door for me said w/ a huge grin on his face, "Bye Lexi" and closed it. I saw him in the halls today and he said hi to me with that same smile as Saturday night but then walked away. Do you guys think Saturday night was pot influenced and he had no clue what he was doing or that he was just more bold about "wanting" me and used weed as an excuse?
Thank you for any response(s) and advice.
Maybe he's trying to see how far you'll let him go, little by little trying to test you to see if you react to his advances.
