Wierd anger?

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Hey i'm a 16 and a guy and lately i've been extremely angry/competitive. Any time another guy does something that might be seen as impressive, funny or cool, i have this strong feeling to out do the person and make them look bad. This feeling is especially strong if a girl is around to witness the act. I often go out of my way just to make myself feel equal and better. For instance, a certain person, has a bit of a goat-tee beard thing going on, and just to out do him, i haven't shaved for the last week and i know have one...the big problem is, that i will even do this to some of my best friends, who i don't really want to embarass.Am I way to competitive and angry or is this just one of those teenage testosterone things.

all it is is being a teenager and your hormones and everything are giving you a lot of extra energy that you seem to put into outdoing other people...maybe you should put that to use and join a basketball team (dont hog the ball)...or just sit there and watch the other person win for a change...you dont have to react at all...just try to stay still and not do anything different with your life.

or you can always join the football team if you really want to hurt somebody and not get in trouble for it just become a Free Safty

i joined...it helps, but realize that after you come out and you are not playing, what are you gonna do with all that extra anger? I had to do the samething. Join the team it is fun and you will make some good friends.

I may be wrong but it's worth a shot.Maybe ur upset/sad about sumthin goin on in ur life and u jus dont realize it and seeing other ppl happy makes u jealous.

ironically b-ball is already practically my entire life.. i play in 3 leagues and ya... i have used it to get rid of a lot of my competiveness in the past but it still remains

Sounds like it's "just one of those teenage testosterone things". But also sounds pretty uncool. I'd do my best to keep it in check if I were you.

The teenage years are a time of great amount of hormones and an era to find out who you are. You have this deep urge to fine out where u belong, get there, and to be the best at what you do. This is partly due to an increased hormone level, but also do to society's environments influencing your actions. Life is a place where we need to be competitive to get what we want, you can be curtious and respectful to people, but sometimes you need to fight for yourself knowing the other person might fail against you.

You said in your post that you really don't understand why this is happening between you and your best friends. Ironically best friends and shit are the people we are most competitive with. When you really look at it, it makes a lot of sense. They are the people that we find to be the most worthy around. Why else would we chose them to be our friends. Having more than them and being better in one way kind of gives us security. Not saying its right to try and be better than someone else, but its the way life tends to be. This is a dog eat dog world, no room for taste bone treats. (stupid analogy i know)

I would say as long as you don't become overly competitive and become arrogant you are fine. There is nothing wrong with just having a back bone and fighting for what you want for urself.

maybe the sports are just making your anger worse. I mean to be on a team and have a coach, winning and competitiveness is emphasized a whole lot more than if you weren't involved in a sport.

ARE FUCKNG CRAZY!!!yeah i think it does, got a lot anger myself.