I have a new question now. Why do people think that I have to try some in order to say I don't want to do it...AKA 'what I am missing'? For the record, I don't drink and I am a virgin. Obviously most people think these things are awesome. I seen people drink and have fun, have sex and have fun. It still didn't seem all that. My friends talk about both, but neither things have proven to be that enticing as to warrant my participation. I think they love doing these things so much, that it's hard for them to imagine not wanting to do them, but I'm not wallowing in sorrow or regret because I've never had sex or alcohol. I do get depressed because I don't have a car, my dream career, or my own place. Now, if I did tomorrow and had not accomplished the things I just listed, I'd be pissed...forget about sex and drinking.Thoughts?
I think you're right when you say "that it's hard for them to imagine not wanting to do them". I would guess that its a combination of that, wanting to share what they consider a good experience and also a stigmatism that surrounds certain activities such as drinking and having sex. Its generally considered by some people that everyone wants to do these things and a lot of people do them because they feel its expected of them rather than a personal desire. I was one of the last of my friends to drink as I never had the compulsion to do so and I stopped drinking about a year ago. On occassion I have a glass of wine or two when at dinner with friends or family but thats about it. As for sex, I personally had a strong desire for it and still do. But thats just me.
I have to explain everything, but it's so hard for them to understand. I feel like I'm up on my soapbox. I get so irritated....