i was sitting in the living room watching tv, moms on the computer, dads watching tv, brothers in his room on the computer..the phone rings...mom answers..it was his teacher. he said that my brother is turning in blank tests and not doing homework....mom tells brother to come in and hes like what and she said 'whats up wit u turning in blank tests??' and he said 'its pointless, theres no point in trying' they keep arguing about it saying stuff like 'why do you care? its my problem' 'its our problem, your throwing your life away!' and it goes on stuff like that. im like just there...i walk in my room and slam the door and everyone shuts up, then goes on again and im like sitting heere crying and typing this at the same time..he wont do anything about it! and my parents cant do anything but encourage him but it wont help hes just too lazy!
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My brother is throwing his life away!!!
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no one can do anything. sometimes your siblings are not what you whant them to be and you see them in a different way when u get older and relise what's really going on.i didn't help any did I?
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I think you've hit the nail on the head, CR. People are responsible for their own lives. The best way to help, Celithrathien, is to get to know your brother better. Let him know you care, but you won't nag at him. He's feeling bad about himself: the last thing he needs is people telling him he's bad. He needs someone understanding, who won't judge him, to talk to.
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I know this is horrible to say but why dont u try and shine in the moment. You always come here and talk about how bad u are treated and how its like you are always the one doing something wrong when that obviously isn't true. Take this time just to do really good for urself. That doesn't mean to neglect your brothers problem, he obviously needs help and you should be supportive of him in anyway that you can, but dont let it bring you down.
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be your brothers buddy.he sounds like he's going through rough times.even if you are mad at him and think he's stupid.put it aside and well,just go hang out with him.
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im not mad at him and i dont think hes stupid..i slways try to be friendly but hes always fighting, he doesnt like anyone in the family it seems, hes mean to me, mean to my parents, mean to my cousins, wtf?
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have u ever thougt there's somethign going on. something hes hidding. a bully. learning disubility.. or somthing. you maynot ever know what it is that bugging him untill he's way way older.......or he couls explode any day/after that it things will make more since not get easewr but make sence.but i could be wrong..... i'm wrong alot lol
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lol i have a lot of typos..^.i'm not going back and fixing them though lol
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That's a very good point, CR. And good suggestions what he might be hiding.
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My brother graduated from University three years ago, and is still waiting for a job to find him. I tried to get him a job at the company I worked for, but he wasn't interested. I've tried to help him several times, but I've now left him to his own life. You can only do so much to help your brother. At the end of the day he's his own person. Don't put yourself out for him.
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Well, i dont agree with that last reply at all. You should always be there for your friends and especially family. Let him know that your there to help him with his schoolwork and stuff if he needs it, encourage him to be a better student, ask him the question, "What do you think is going to happen Down the line if you just stop caring?" That same question keeps me going every day because it makes me realize what i do now, is going to have a major impact on my life in the future. Maybe he just doesnt realize this yet.. Anyways, there i dont know if much you can do, tell him you love him and you'll always be there for him. Like other people have said, you cant run his life for him
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Like you say I've tried to help, but If he doesn't want help, you can't force him. I've read through his cv and offered assistance, but he won't accept any interview I can offer him. At the end of theday its his choice to go for a job or not.
